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Sexing Up Your Online Dating Profile?

Mar 8, 2008
Where does sex belong in your online dating profile? Sex carries a different significance to each person, but there's no denying its importance in a healthy relationship.

When we evaluate this question, the first thing you need to do is figure out what type of site you will post your profile on. If you've been investigating the various sites that are available, you'll notice that many of the sites cater to very specific clients.

There are all sorts of dating sites, from religious based to sites that promote extramarital affairs, and each of the sites has members with different expectations. What works for your profile on Adult Friend Finder will be a definite "no-no" on Big Church.

There are three areas to your online dating profile, and each one provides you an opportunity to "spice" things up. When you post a profile online, you assign yourself a username, you post at least one picture of yourself, and you write a quick profile (or sales ad) about yourself.

Let's start with a username. This is your "handle" and it's the name others will use to communicate with you. Take great care in picking out your name, but keep in mind that your choice will have an effect on how people perceive you.

If you went with a name like "Plaything," "SexKitten," or "HardBody69", other members will have a pre-conceived notion of what your intentions are. They will think that you're more interested in a good time than in finding a serious relationship. Depending on the site you're using, this could be a good thing.

Next up is your photo. It's strongly encouraged to post a photo of yourself, and research shows that the more of them you post, the better your profile will perform.

As you browse around dating sites, you'll notice that some profile pictures are a lot more provocative and revealing than others. These profiles get significantly more clicks and visits, but they are also turn off for members looking for a long term partner.

The final part is your profile. This is a written paragraph which portrays who you are. This is your sales pitch, and it's your chance to express yourself in words. This area doesn't have the immediate impact as your picture or user name, but if you choose your words correctly, it will help to complete the whole picture.

Here's one last point. If you are joining an online dating site to find a long term mate, do NOT include any mention of sex in your profile.

You are trying to find as many good matches as possible, and the last thing you want to do is have people overlook your profile without getting in contact with you because you appear to be a little too direct.

There is always time to discuss sex once you get to know someone a little bit better. Why make it awkward at the beginning of your relationship? Take your time, get comfortable with the person, and let the relationship take its natural course.
About the Author
Jim McMenamin is the webmaster and creator of MacsDatingSite.com, a blog dedicated to the various issues of online dating. For a limited time, Jim is giving away two free eBooks, 10 Tips To Writing Your Online Dating Profile as well as 101 Steps To A Happy Relationship, when you sign up for his newsletter.
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