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Return To The Game Of Dating.

Mar 15, 2008
If you've gone through a divorce and are ready to start going out on dates again, there are a few important things to keep in mind. Sometimes dating after a divorce can be intimidating for a person. Getting back into dating after a divorce can be tough. I have heard some people say that they forget how to date, or that the thrill is gone for them.

Most of the time, what this is really about is insecurity. Getting back on that horse after a divorce can be scary because you've likely had your heart broken by your former partner. Now, your confidence has been shaken and you wonder if you're really up to the task of wooing somebody else. Well you know what? You are. It just takes some practice.

Only get back into dating if you are doing it for the right reasons. Though various family members and friends may try to push you back into dating, don't let their good intentions move you before you are ready. Remember, you and your former spouse are separate people, and thus you do not have to feel like you should start dating again because they are. If you do rush into a new relationship, it will most likely fail.

Being nervous when you start to date again is normal. You should not avoid dating because you are nervous. Keep in mind that being nervous does not mean that you are not ready to date. In this case, nervousness comes with the territory. The more practice you get the easier that dating will become.

Another concern people often have is that they don't know where to meet a potential love interest. Some of them feel like the bar scene no longer interests them. Others might find that everyone in their social circle is spoken for - this is natural, as married couples tend to seek out other married couples for friendship.

None of these reasons should make you despair. Alternatives exist if you want to avoid the clichs of blind dates and bars. One of the most popular alternatives is online dating. There is little threat and work involved in this method, and you will probably feel better about getting back into dating this way.

Let things go slow and keep your expectations low for now. Your final goal is probably to find the perfect someone, but it will make matters worse if you become obsessed with this objective. Dating is supposed to be a fun activity where you are trying to meet lots of new people.

If you don't have success right away, don't give up. Chalk bad dates up to nothing more than learning experiences or funny stories you can use to entertain your friends. Remember that you have a lot to offer to the right man or woman, and don't settle for someone who doesn't make you happy! Getting back into dating after a divorce doesn't need to be scary - with the right attitude, it can be fun and exciting!
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