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How to have a good marriage

Mar 20, 2008
When somebody in our famly gets married, our patriarch, my grandfather is always requested to give a speech on secrets to a good marriage. The thing about it is that he gives the same speech every time he is asked to deliever a speech.

S.A.L.T is the secret to a good marriage according to him. He begins by telling this story:

An old king one day asked his three daughters how much they loved him. The first daughter said that he loved his father as much as she loves all the gold in the kingdom. The second daughter said that he loved her father as much she loves all the silver in the kingdom. The king was so delighted with both of his daugters. Finally the youngest daughter was asked how much she loves him. The youngest daughter said that she loves her father as much as she loves salt. The king was furious with this response, imagine comapring her love to that of the lowly salt. So she banished her youngest to serve in the kitchen.

The king's youngest daughter the instructed the cook not to put salt in all the king's dishes. Because of this the king slowly loss his appetite for the food that was served that he became very sick. He then asked the cook to explain why the food is not as tasty as before. The cook then told him that his youngest daughter instructed her not to put salt in all the king's dishes. When the king heard this, he was furious. He asked his youngest daughter to explain her actions. She explained to her father that she was only demonstrating how much she loved him. The old king finally finally realized how important salt is. He finally understood that his youngest daughter loved him so much more than her two sisters.

My grandfather then continues to explain that the key to a successful, loving and a good marriage therefore is SALT. You have to love you spouse as much as you love salt. He then gives a definition for the acronym S.A.L.T.:

S - Share - Husbands and wives must share invidual blessing that they recieve with each other. They must share not only physical things but good experiences as well. They have to remember that when they enter married life, they are considered as one flesh. Sharing also speaks of helping each other with the burdens and responsibilities in the marriage.

A - Attention - Oftentimes we hear of spouses complaining that their respective spouses are not giving enough attention to them. The wife complains that the husband just comes home and sits in front of the T.V watching sports. Some husbands complains that the wife keeps on chatting with her friends on the phone. It does not mean that the couple should not spend some time with their friends or their interest. However take note that they must give the bulk of their attention to each other.

L - Live within your means - Statistically, it has been proven that money problems is the number one reason why couples argue. Strict guidelines must be drawn on how money should be handled. Husbands and wives learn how to work within a budget. Money for emergency savings and investments should also be considered and set aside.

T - Trust - Trust is the most important factor in a good marriage. Distrust shatters another person's confidence. But if spouses continue to trust in each other then they will continue to achieve greater heights.

The principle of S.A.L.T may be simplistic but it worked for my grandfather and grandmother because they had a good marriage for the past 50 years. It is my hope and my prayer that you will learn something from it and that you will have a good marriage as well.
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