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Get Your Ex Back Instead Of Pushing Them Away Instead

Apr 3, 2008
If you really want to get your ex back it's important to understand that the emotional pain you are experiencing right now could keep you from some clear thinking. Unless you want to keep blundering along and make it even harder to get your ex back you must take a step back and honestly evaluate how you have handled the break-up situation so far. You may not realize that you may actually be pushing your ex even further away instead of increasing the odds in your favor that you will get your ex back.

People who have lost someone or something that they want desperately to get back frequently allow their emotions to take over and soon desperation sets in. In a break-up situation this results in you exhibiting the push away behaviors that make it much less likely that you will be getting your ex back.

Begging or pleading with your ex to come back to you will only push them further and further away from you.. You probably think that if they really know how much you love them and need them they will finally get it and come flying back into your open arms. Not likely - you might find that you have pushed them into someone else's waiting arms instead!

You need to regain your dignity here. Just think of all the classic movie scenes where you watched the ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend character desperately trying to win their lover back with needy declarations of undying love, or convince the ex of their attempts to change, or make it up to them for whatever they thought they did wrong.

Sitting in the theater or on your comfy couch at home watching a movie scene like that will usually cause you to cringe with embarrassment for the poor man or woman that's on the screen pouring their heart out and humiliating themselves in the process. And you wonder if they are even aware of how much they are actually hindering their chances of getting back together with their ex.

Can you see yourself in that particular movie scene that just ran through your mind? Are you doing any of those things that keep pushing your ex away and make you feel worse and worse about yourself even though you think you can't help yourself?

I'm sure you think that if you can just convince your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend of your love for them you will win them back, so you will do anything it takes, no matter how humiliating, to get them to understand how much you love them and need them. Perhaps you believe that yours is a true love, and true love conquers all - right? Well true love is the operative word here, or perhaps a better word would be real love instead.

Real love isn't needy or desperate. It's confident enough to allow your ex to have the space they need right now to breath and get a handle on their emotions before you make your next move. And if you make your next move the right one you will greatly increase your chances of winning your ex back instead of continuing to push them away from you.

Even if you think you've blundered things too much, don't despair, it's never too late! Now is the time to take that step back and give it a break. Use this time wisely to pull yourself together and start learning a SMARTER WAY to get your ex back.
About the Author
Hi, I'm Claire Tourney and I understand how you feel right now. If you would like to get your self-esteem back and get your ex back too, check out my Squidoo lens Get Your Ex Back - The Smart Way!
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