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To Get Your Ex Back Be Strong And Willing To Change

Apr 8, 2008
If you are determined to get your ex back you will first need to make slow and careful contact with him or her. When the time is right, be sure it's not too soon, you will have to have a face-to-face talk with your ex where you will raise the subject of getting back together. It is crucial that you handle this meeting right if you are going to regain your partner.

Before this critical meeting it's important that you get your act together. You have to do some soul searching. Consider the reasons for the break up. Be as unemotional as you possible.

Get out pen and paper and make a list of all the reasons for the break up. Don't spare yourself. Look at the part you played and then decide what you are willing to change.

You need to be realistic here. You need to recognize the areas you are willing to change and those that you won't. If there is a part of your life or your behavior that contributed greatly to the break up that you are unwilling to change you need to accept this.

Don't allow this introspection to depress you. You have faults, and so does everyone else. By understanding what aspects of your life and personality you are willing to change, and which you aren't you arm yourself with powerful self-knowledge. Use this to gather confidence and strength.

On the day you are to meet with your ex make sure you are not rushed. Take plenty of time to prepare yourself physically and emotionally.

You want to look your best and feed your self with plenty of positive self-talk. You want to walk into the meeting feeling good about yourself and knowing that getting your ex back is the right thing for both of you.

Keep the conversation light and casual at first. Ask about the same things you would have when you were still together, work, books, sports, mutual friends, that sort of thing.

Don't be teary or grasping. When the time is right simply say that you know that some aspects of your personality can be less than desirable at times. Tell your ex that you have been doing a lot of thinking about your own foibles and that you realize that these things did contribute to the break up.

Do not say that you are willing to change in order to get him or her back. That will only make you look needy. Instead say that you are going to change in order to be a better person. That you are making changes in your life for your self, not for him or her. This is a critical moment. You have to appear to be strong and confident to your ex. At all costs avoid coming across as a needy, grasping person that is fit more for pity than for love.

Critical self examination can be difficult. But if you do not allow your emotions to rule your head and come out the other side with increased confidence in yourself and your ability to change you greatly increase the chances of getting your ex back and be a better person, too.
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