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How To Get Your Ex Back - Get Your Emotional Equilibrium Back

Apr 8, 2008
If you have recently experienced a break up and find yourself wondering how to get your ex back one of the first things to do is take stock of how you are doing emotionally right now. Are you crying all the time over every sad song you hear, or about things that remind you of your ex and all the good times you had together?

Experiencing intense emotional states is understandable and may also get you the attention you might feel you need right now, but after while your ex along with the other people in your life are going to tire of the drama and wonder why you can't seem to get yourself together.

The Holly stereotype of the depressed, moody lover may be interesting to watch in the movie theater, but it's not going to play well in real life with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend.

And while you may not realize it, if you continue to let your emotions run wild it may be your way of avoiding the reality that there are some things you will need to change if you are serious about wanting to get your ex back.

It's also important to ask yourself if you are actually sad about the break up or are you ADDICTED to the feeling of heartbreak and sadness instead?

It's important to be careful here because very intense emotional states will release chemicals into our cells that become addictive over time and that's part of the reason you will find people caught in the same cycles of behavior, experiencing the same dramas and making the same mistakes. Their cells are actually looking for another chemical fix and this triggers the behavior patterns that cause the emotional state all over again.

The best remedy for this is to be aware when you are doing it. Sometimes we get so caught up in our own dramas that we don't even realize that we are repeating the same behavior patterns over and over again. Once you start catching yourself doing this you experience an ah ha! moment and you start to reverse the pattern.

This enables you to start feeling a little more in control and ready to take more positive steps to get your emotions balanced and self confidence back.

Feel good about the fact that you are getting wiser about handling your emotions and use this time away from your ex to work on yourself and what you need to change. Do things that make you feel better, stronger and happier and not only will you get more confidence, but you will also become more attractive to your ex. Now you are ready to begin learning how to get your ex back - the SMART way!
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Hi I'm Claire Tourney. Visit my Squidoo Lens How To Get Your Ex Back-The Smart Way to understand how your emotions may be hurting your chances of getting your ex back and to discover a PROVEN, successful plan for getting your ex back.
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