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Married to an Alcoholic?...6 Quick Tips To Get Them Sober

Apr 12, 2008
Are you married to an alcoholic? Is your husband/wife a different person when they drink? Are you tired of the Dr. Jeckyl and Mr. Hyde Behavior? Are you at your wits end and just can't take it anymore? What can you do?Stop trying to get your husband/wife to stop drinking.

It really doesn't make any difference whatsoever, nagging on them to give up as all it leads to is making you emotionally stressed out and therefore less able to help that person who is so special to you. It is impossible to verbally over power an alcoholic as you need a delicate control over the situation. With this in mind you can reach inside an alcoholic and have some effect on their life.

You must always bear in mind that you are helping the person that you married and loved and not the alcoholic. Ignore them when they have got a drink inside them and they are looking for an argument and ignore any form of emotional nonsense. Make sure it sinks into them the fact that you will not be provoked when they are drunk and stick to your guns.

Above all, never allow the alcoholic to trespass against your spirit when they are playing one of their mind games. Walk away and close the door behind you. Go visit a friend, take a walk around the block, or put some ear plugs in your ears. Your mental health is what helps the alcoholic the most. This is what detaching with love is all about. Detaching yourself from the disease is what helps the alcoholic see that he needs help.

The really sad fact about this kind of relationship is that the non-drinker ends up being as mentally and emotionally ill as the one that drinks. You should see then how important it really is that the non-drinker sets their own boundaries to what they are prepared tp put up with while their partner is under the influence of alcohol.

Whatever you do, dont allow them to see that their behaviour is affecting you as their whole ploy is to irritate you, so make sure you don't give them that satisfaction. When they do get into a state turn your back on them and try and see right through them to the person you used to know and love.

Now comes a long list of DON'TS so you don't encourage their behaviour. Don't assist them to bed. Don't allow them to drive while under the influence. Don't allow them to argue with you while drunk. Ignore them and Don't be forced into anything. Don't supply them with any booze even if they get down onto their hands and knees. Under no circumstances Don't treat them with understanding and certainly do not pay them any extra attention.

When the alcoholic in your life is sober, give them extra special attention. Tell them how much you love them, but not the disease. Talk to them about your new boundaries when they are sober. Write them on the refrigerator so they can't say they forgot. Basically let them know all the bad and awful things they do to you and the rest of the family while they are drinking. They need to know.

All these points will make life living with an alcoholic just that little bit more easier and it will aid the burden of their abuses towards you. Sadly in a way you are not alone and you can discover other peoples experiences at the stopdrinkingadvice.org blog and it will soon come to light that your world can change and your partner too.
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