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Get Your Ex Back - 10 Break Up Blunders To Avoid

Apr 16, 2008
If you are still not over your break up and would really like to have a chance at winning your ex-lover back, you have to make sure you are not committing the types of breakup blunders that actually will make it harder to win your ex back.

Are you guilty of committing any of these ten break up blunders?

1. Telling your ex what a huge mistake they are making. This won't cause them to pause and think it over, instead they will think of what a mistake it was to get involved with you in the first place.

3. Calling too soon after the break up. Your ex has decided to break up with you and it should be clear enough that they need their space right now and the last thing they want is to hear from you.

3. Drunk Dialing. You have imbibed a bit too much and are really letting your emotions run amuck so you keep picking up the phone to try and get your ex to talk to you. See # 2

4. Leaving tons of email and voice mail messages.... Again - see # 2

5. Telling your ex how depressed, sad or lonely you have been since the break up. You may think this will appeal to your ex's sympathetic nature but instead, you are saddling them with your emotions and overwhelming them with your neediness. And this is actually a manipulative behavior, however unintentional, which can deliver a real sledge blow to the relationship.

6. Continuing to argue about the break up and bringing up past disagreements and squabbles. If you do get your ex's attention and get them talking to you this is not the best use of any contact time. You are being immature and petty and this isn't going to get you back with your ex, instead it will keep you constantly cycling through the past history of your relationship.

7. Professing your undying love over and over. Even if you think that they don't understand how much you really love them, obviously that is not the issue right now or they wouldn't have left. It's time to take a different perspective and analyze what went wrong with the relationship and what you could do better instead of thinking that true love will conquer all.

8. Apologizing over and over again. Now if you did something wrong, really blew it by cheating or breaking a big promise you know you need to apologize. But if you don't know the right way to make an apology, (and hardly anyone does) you won't be able to repair the rift in the relationship. You also have to know when to apologize instead of apologizing too soon. And if you really didn't do anything that needs to be apologized for then you are only demeaning yourself and this will make you even less attractive to your ex.

9. Trying to make your ex jealous. Well, this may work initially for some psychological reasons, and maybe a little bit won't hurt as people tend to want what they can't have. But it still won't change the reasons for the break up in the first place and if all you are depending on is manipulative tactics to try and win your ex back you will end up with a pretty twisted relationship that will be even harder to keep going for the long term.

10. Pleading with your ex to take you back. The big secret here is this: people like people who like themselves, who are strong and emotionally secure enough not to want someone back so much that they will sacrifice their self dignity by begging.

Now you know what common blunders you need to avoid if you want to have the best chance of winning back your ex boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband. So start to analyze what went wrong with the relationship and what you need to change and then you are ready to make some SMARTER moves to get your ex back.
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Hi I'm Claire Tourney. You can to avoid the Big Blunders most people make trying to get their ex back. Get SMARTER strategies and a PROVEN, effective plan for winning your ex back by visiting my Squidoo lens Get Your Ex Back - The Smart Way!
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