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Get Back With Your Ex - Why A Hungry Dog Doesn't Get Fed!

Apr 16, 2008
Have you ever heard the proverbial old saw about "Why A Hungry Dog Doesn't Get Fed?" The logic behind this phrase is important for you to understand right now if you really want to get back together with your ex girlfriend, boyfriend, wife or husband and you have been acting a little desperate or needy.

Think about it. What would you do if a hungry mangy mutt showed up at your door? You probably know enough to shoo it away, because if you don't and you feed it you will be stuck with that dog hanging around looking for a free handout and that dog will become a real nuisance. So you pick up the phone to call the Pound or the Humane Society instead.

But what happens instead if a handsome, well fed and groomed dog with a shiny collar happens to show up at your door? You probably admire that dog, but you know it doesn't need you to feed it; it's obviously well taken care of probably just lost or wandering around checking out the neighborhood.

So you feel a sense of relief, you know you're not responsible for taking care of that dog and you even think it might be nice to have a beautiful dog like that. Do you get the metaphor here? You don't want to come across to your ex-lover as a "needy dog" - you need to be the handsome, well fed dog instead.

Exhibiting desperate behaviors such as calling all the time and pleading or begging with your ex to get back together with you only makes you seem like a "needy dog" to your ex and this will only push them further away.

As you can probably see these types of behaviors will not increase your attractiveness to your ex, but the important thing to realize is that people tend to want what they can't have and if you are bothering them all the time looking for some emotional reassurance you certainly aren't being the handsome dog they might admire but that's just out of their reach.

You see people like people who like themselves, who are confident and emotionally secure and who don't "need" anyone to make them happy.

So if you are serious about winning back the love of your ex boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife, do yourself a favor and leave them alone for awhile while you get a handle on yourself and your emotions and cut loose the needy, desperate behaviors.

Then you'll be in the best position to implement a SMARTER strategy to get your ex back.
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Hi, I'm Claire Tourney and I've got some great tips on how you can get back your confidence and self esteem, and get your ex back too. Discover a SMARTER strategy for getting back your lost lover by checking out my Squidoo lens Get Your Ex Back!
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