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To Get Your Ex Back, Slow Down

May 3, 2008
Maybe it was a long simmering argument or maybe a sudden flash of anger. How ever it happened you and your partner have split. And you are determined to get your ex back.

You are certain that the break up is a huge mistake. You have the telephone, text and email all available to you. So what could be more natural than to contact your ex and talk it over.

If you succumb to this temptation to contact your ex chances are you will only drive your former partner even further away. Hard as it may be for you to do, you have to be patient, you have to wait.

There Is A Reason For The Split

There is a reason, or more than one, that you and ex have parted ways. This may all seem like a mistake to you but if you contact your ex now and demand to be heard you will only make the situation worse.

Difficult as it may be, you have to wait.

How long you need to wait before contacting your ex will be a tough decision for you. You have to think back to the circumstances of your break up and try to judge from those how long you should wait.

If you and your ex were having problems for some time before the break up, wait longer. If there was a lot of anger in your relationship or at the time of the break up, wait longer still.

What do you know about your ex? How long will it take him or her to calm down? Once you think you have a good idea of how long to wait, double the time.

While You Wait, Look To Yourself

This waiting period is not lost time. Use this time to look at your own foibles and engage in some self-improvement.

Without beating yourself up think about your words and actions and the part they played in the split up. When the time is right to talk to your ex about reunion you have to understand your own faults and mistakes. You will need to be able to explain to your ex that you are aware of these problems and are already working to correct them.

The best relationships are often the ones that nearly failed. The patience, self-control and practical self-improvement you practice now will pay off with a renewed and better relationship with your ex in the future.
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