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How To Stop Your Breakup - How To Stop Your Break Up Without Making The Situation Worse

May 30, 2008
Are you vexed over the following questions, "How to stop your breakup before it is too late? Should I get back with my lover? How can I get my lover back without hurting my chances of success?"

Well, this is a problem that a lot of people face and you are definitely not alone. If possible, try not to worry too much about it. Let's answer the above questions one by one.

1) Should I get back with my lover?

Well, it really depends on what stage of break up you are at. For example, when you have just broken up a few days ago, it will be very difficult for you to make the correct decision. This is because you are now at an emotional low point and the decision that you make now is probably not the best one.

What you should do now instead is to give yourself a few days to a month to heal your broken heart. Once you are in a better emotional state, you will definitely be able to make a better decision. Perhaps, you realize that you can live very well without your ex. So maybe you should move on? Or perhaps, you still believe that there is a chance for reconciliation.

Ultimately, the decision is yours. Of course, it is also important to look at the reason why you break up. If it is because of abuse, you may not want to get back to the relationship. You may think it is possible to change your ex. However, usually, you can't change someone else unless he/she wants to change.

2) How to get my lover back without hurting my chances?

There are several things that you should avoid doing as doing them will usually make the situation worse. Don't call your lover or text message several times per day. Don't stalk your lover. Don't contact your lover's friends or family members to ask questions about your lover.

Generally, the guideline here is to avoid doing things that will make you seem desperate or needy. You won't want to do those things because doing them will drive your ex further away.

One important principle that you will want to know is that "People want what they do not have." If you are perceived as being needy, your ex will think he/she can get you easily and you will have violated this principle.

Most importantly, to stop break up successfully, you must work on improving yourself and not allow yourself to be overwhelmed by the break up.
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How to stop your breakup?

Watch a video that shows you exactly what you must NEVER do, what you should do to get your ex back and why at http://www.squidoo.com/magic_of_making_up_now

You will also learn how to reverse the situation if you have already done the things that should not be done.
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