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Pick-Up Lines: "The Social Opener

Jun 7, 2008
This article is part of a series of tips on "pick-up lines" that I am releasing for free to the public. In a social environment, there are several different ways to begin a conversation with a woman. While you may think you need the perfect first impression, your opening line does not have to be as clever as you think. If you are friendly and fun and non-needy, women will be happy to talk to you even if your opener is simple. The Social Opener, popularized by Mehow, may be all you need to start getting attraction.

Here are some examples of what the social opener can be:

"Hey guys,"

"You guys look fun, I had to say hi"

"You guys look fun, are you friendly?"

"You guys have a cool energy, I just wanted to see what you were like."

"Hey, how's it going?"

You can choose between the short simple "Hi," or being a little more unique and commenting on the woman's energy. Either way, the most important thing is to come in looking like you're having fun already and not needing anything from them. You should have your body facing them, but not leaning in. Just speak louder if they can't hear you. All you're doing is spreading the party.

One thing different we're doing here is using the word "guys" instead of "girls" to describe them. When you're socializing, you want to convey that you talk to everyone, guys and girls, so you use a more unisex term. If you said "Hey girls," it would sound more like you were on the prowl, which is fine, but it doesn't work with the social opener. Buy using "guys," the women will understand they have to work a bit harder to get you.

The social opener works for all occasions, whether the woman is in a ladies night out, in a group with guys, or even by herself. This is because it's friendly, yet not overtly sexual or romantic.

"What do I say next?" Good question. One thing you could do is have a few pre-planned stories to go into. However, I think it is a better practice to get good at improvising. Speaking on the fly is a very important skill in meeting women. While you are developing this, it will feel awkward as you run out of things to say, but just keep working on it. The more new people you talk to, the easier it will be.

The social opener is probably the easiest and most consistent way to open people, once you are good at it. If people are constantly blowing you off when you use it, there's probably something really off-key with your body language, tonality, or style. Ask a friend for his input on how you look when approaching, and keep practicing. If you open four groups a night using the social opener, you will find this becomes easier and easier each time.
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