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Pick Up Lines: "The Opinion Opener

Jun 8, 2008
With all the single women out there, and the thousands of different things you could say when introducing yourself, you'd think it would be easy to meet a woman. However, most men struggle with what to say after "Hi." They fear that awkward pause as it becomes clear you have absolutely nothing to say and basically just thought she was hot. Never fear, however, today we introduce the Opinion Opener, as popularized by Neil Strauss and Mystery several years ago.

The rationale behind the opinion opener is simple. Women love to talk and give their opinion on things, so you go up and give them the opportunity to babble. The opinion opener has your first conversational topic with her built into it, so it buys you some time to build some rapport, as well.

Picture yourself in a bar, on your way to approach a group of three women. One thing you might say is:

"Hey guys, I just have a minute, but I need a female opinion on something. Do you think if a guy invites a girl to a ball, he should pay for her cover?" Most of the time, they'll say yes.

Go on with "Well get this, my friend invited this girl he knows to a Halloween party and she wants him to pay both her ticket AND her sister's, and even to reimburse her for what she's wearing. Is that fair?"

Almost always the women will say "Noooo, nooo!" and tell you that he should drop the gold digging bimbo. From there you can go down conversational threads such as how much a woman can expect from her man, and vice versa. You are now in a steady conversation with them. Do not stay on the topic for too long, though. Make sure to move to some other conversation piece or they will get bored and say, "Well, there's your answer."

Other opinion openers include:

"My friend's starting a glam rock band and he needs a name for it. What do you think is a better name, The Red Rokkers or SexJam?"

"My coworker Jenny has been talking to this guy online for like 4 months, they were sweet talking a lot, and were going to meet, but she just saw a recent photo of him and he's pretty fugly. Should she cancel on him?"

Remember that the key elements of an opinion opener include a normal greeting and a false time constraint. If you say you have to go in a minute, it lets the girls know you're not going to hijack their group all night, and they will open up more.

The best use of opinion openers is for guys that aren't used to going up to women that regularly. Women are usually likely to comply with an opinion opener even if they're not sold on the guy yet, so it's great practice for beginners. Remember that it may sound awkward to use these at first, but just keep doing it, and it will be very natural.
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