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Buying Women Drinks At Bars, Should You?

Jun 11, 2008
"Can I buy you a drink?"

That's the age old pick-up line we've heard since we were old enough to watch any movie that took place in a bar. Makes perfect sense on the face of it, doesn't it? If you have to ask her permission to buy her a drink, then buying a drink in general must be a good idea right?

There really isn't a flat "yes" or "no" to this question. Buying a drink can help further the relationship, or it can kill all your chances of getting her number, depending on a number of factors. Here are some ways to tell if you're getting used or getting laid.

If she outright says "Can you get me a wine?" in the first five minutes of talking to her, she's probably just using you. It's rather rude to request that a stranger buy you something, isn't it. It should be your idea in the first place, and it should be after you've had some time to get to know each other and establish that there is something friendly going on.

It's even worse if she expects you to buy her sister, her girlfriend, or even another guy a drink at the same time. If this happens, she's obviously using you. Smile, look amused and say "I'm fine, thanks." There's no reason to justify yourself or explain. Just be relaxed.

However, if you two have been going back and forth, and getting along, you can go ahead and get her a drink. Just make sure it's your own idea, and that you're just being friendly and generous, not trying to impress her. It can't be motivated by neediness.

Buying a drink is a great plan when you want to move a girl away from her friends. Suggest you and her get a drink, and then walk with her to the bar. From there, you can go anywhere in the club with her. Sit down, and get to know her without distractions. You'll find you'll cover a lot more ground with her that way.

Whatever you do, don't continue to buy her drink after drink all night. Even if she did like you, this puts you in her mind as a spectacular "drink ticket." Plenty of girls love to find guys who will buy them tons of drinks for a night, and then are happy to ditch the guy without even leaving him with her phone number.

As long as you use common sense, friendly and sociable to buy people drinks in bars, whether they're male or female. The best way to tell if you should buy is ask yourself ,"If I knew I couldn't have her, would I still be buying her a drink?" If the answer is yes, you're in the clear. Here's to your bar success!
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