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7 Ways To Know You and Her are "Just Friends

Jun 13, 2008
Every guy has to hear these cold words at some point, "But we're friends!" You might have bought her lunch and dinner a couple times, but she just didn't recognize it, and now when you try to kiss her, she pushes you away. How could you have seen this coming? Here are a few ways to know in advance.

1) She takes you to the mall to help her buy lingerie.

You do not want to be her sidekick for any feminine products such as makeup, perfume, or lingerie. Anything she uses to attract and please a man will be bought with someone she has no intention of attracting or pleasing. Think about this, if you wanted to buy clothes for a date, would you ask your date what clothes you should wear? Unless you're already her lover or boyfriend, the guy who buys her panties with her will never be the one ripping them off.

2) She tells you about guys she wants.

In the words of the late Dawson Leery, you don't want to be the guy she tells her boy adventures to. You want to BE the boy adventure himself. If she's telling you about her dates, it means you're not one of them.

3) Not much touching going on.

It is really hard to start getting intimate once you've had space this long in the relationship. This is why you have to start touching immediately

4) She can cry around you, and feels safe telling you embarrassing secrets

Most women would feel mortified to have their boy interest see them cry (at least before they've been dating a while). If you are the shoulder, you are not the guy they're pining over. Also, if she's telling you stories that would make most men not want to date her, why are you hearing them?

5) She says, "You're such a good friend."

It's so obvious, I almost didn't put this in, but many men can still think, "Well maybe we're not JUST friends," when they hear this. If she says this, it's over.

6) When you and her are hanging out, she's the one planning what happens.

The man in her life will have no trouble taking the lead. If she's calling the shots, it means you've not let her be the lady she wants to be. This can change if you've been dating a while, but at first, you should be the one who decides what's going on. When a woman has to lead, it kills her attraction.

7) You've been acting like Daniel-San from The Karate Kid, ever since you've known her.

Watch this movie again, if it's been a couple decades. Daniel-San does get the girl in the made-up story, but his behavior is so wuss-like and indecisive that any woman would treat him as a friend. He never initiates touching, gets upset when her other friends come around, and never makes a definite move.

Watch out for these seven signs, and avoid the traits that come with them, and you should be well on your way to avoiding the friendzone. If it's too late and you are classified as a friend, don't worry about it. It's good to have female friens. However, in the future, you can now nip these things in the bud and make your own choice.
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