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Get Your Ex Back - The No Contact Rule

Jun 13, 2008
There are a lot of easy mistakes that you can fall into right after a breakup, but none more so than this. One of the most classic problems people face is what to say to your ex to get him back. The answer may surprise you: NOTHING!

Right after a big flaming breakup, a lot of emotions are flying around and it can be easy for either of you to say the wrong things and really hurt each others feelings, causing irreparable damage to the relationship. If you can avoid this, you will wind up finding the road to a reunion a lot easier than if you had fallen into this trap.

Experts in the field of post-breakup relationship recovery will often tell you to give your ex a cooling off period during which you dont contact or speak to each other at all...but they rarely tell you exactly how long to keep this up. I advise about a months time, it comes to just about the right timespan that things will have cooled off and communication will become a little easier.

Be warned! Breaking this rule can result in some heavy consequences! There are two main ways that people easily slip up and fail to stick to this policy, and both of them are extremely destructive to how your ex sees you:

1. Drunk Dialing. Its natural to feel depression and loneliness over losing the love of your life, but turning to alcohol for comfort can have very nasty consequences. Sometimes you will find yourself so lonely and sad, that any judgement impairment can lead to a hastily dialed 3AM phone call to your ex that never ends well and is ALWAYS regretted in the morning after the hangover.

2. Text Message Terrorism. Being cut off from the one you love can make a person really desperate to win her ex back...so much so that without thinking of how it appears, she starts bombing him with an onslaught of messages, phone calls, and emails that only result in her looking like a head case. You dont want to ruin how your ex sees you, so stop yourself whenever you start to get the urge to do this.

Falling victim to these two errors can have a devastating impact on your efforts to get your ex back. Avoiding these mistakes will be extremely beneficial to you as you try to put together a plan for getting him back once and for all.

Always remember that although the no contact rule has the great effects of keeping you from digging yourself in deeper and letting your ex have time to miss you, its greatest value is the time it gives you to plan your strategy for getting him back in the long run. Having a proven process to go through will make everything you do have a purpose...blindly winging it will only result in making it more difficult.
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