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Elegant Persuasion

Jun 17, 2008
"Human subtlety will never devise an invention more beautiful, more simple, or more direct than does Nature, because in her inventions, nothing is lacking and nothing is superfluous." --Leonardo da Vinci

As a young man, I believed in raw ambition, brute force, and getting my way no matter what. I felt like in order to persuade, I had to really work hard, I had to conquer, I had to dominate. Well, thankfully, blessedly, we are not young forever. And we have the potential to mature, to learn, and to ripen. I now understand that I don't have to be 'in domination' but 'in dominion'. My power doesn't rely on someone else being disempowered, but it relies on my inner sense of power, an assuredness that can only be obtained by being in dominion.

It is the nature of life to battle imaginary enemies at times. We've all tilted at windmills, all fought battles that are unwinnable, and the faster we learn that we are often the ones in our own way, in essence, that the enemy we are battling is ourself, then the faster we can advance to the next level. Why do we persist in doing something against our best interest? We've been entrenched, we have frames thrust upon us by school, family, society, et cetera, and these lessons were always taught through the lens of, work is hard, achievement comes through struggle'. I suggest that nothing could be farther from the truth.

For years I didn't get that 'struggling with my weight' was keeping me stuck. The languaging was setting up a brick wall. Even the term 'losing' weight is a metaphorical minefield if you think about it. Who likes to lose? Loss is something we strive to avoid.

When we are in dominion we release the struggle and live in the present and as I've been discovering lately, there is nothing at all that is more powerful than living in the present. I'm not thinking about the future, oh, i have to have this sale, my car needs to be fixed, I can't wait for my date on Friday night, et cetera, but instead experiencing life exactly as it comes to me, whatever that might be. If you're in the moment of selling a product or service to a potential prospect, be in that moment. That is the best way that moment can be used. Stop. Listen. Elicit. Get to know exactly what this person wants and needs at their very core.

This requires patience, it requires attention, and it most certainly requires intention. You might not get it right away. You might have a few of these future or past thoughts creep back in from time-to-tie, but just gently let it go, take a deep breath, and consciously focus on what you're doing.

It has changed my life incredibly for the better since I made the conscious decision to be present. Letting go of the struggle to control all possible outcomes and force things to my will has allowed me an inner peace that is indescribable. I highly recommend this way of living. It's the very essence of elegant self persuasion.
About the Author
Kenrick Cleveland teaches strategies to earn the business of wealthy prospects using persuasion. He runs public and private seminars and offers home study courses and coaching programs in persuasion strategies.
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