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Why Cutting Off Contact Can Help You Get Your Ex Back

Jul 4, 2008
It may seem like exactly what you don't want to do, but believe it or not cutting off contact with your ex can help a lot when you do decide to actively pursue a relationship with him. Rebuilding a life with him can be a lot simpler and easier after a term of about a month with no contact between you...and here are a few reasons why.

1) Being in each others' faces right after a breakup is bound to cause some friction. When emotions are flaring up and everything is out of control, it's easy to say the wrong things and make it much harder to recover from this. Cutting off contact with your ex gives you time to cool down, and serves as a kind of damage control to keep you from accidentally making things worse.

Once the month has finished and everyone's heads are cooler and more calm, working on the relationship can begin anew. After the break, everyone will be in a better frame of mind, allowing for a much easier time of constructive pursuit of fixing the problems between you.

2) Just because you're not actively fighting, don't think this doesn't apply to you. Even the nicest post-breakup relationship needs to have a break in it if you ever want to rekindle old feelings. If you two are still together after the separation, it'll be like you never did break up and your ex won't feel any need to get back together.

It's like the old expression "you don't appreciate what you have until it's gone." If you're still there, he can't miss you, and he won't full understand what he's missing out on by having broken up with you. If you're still friendly after a breakup, there's still something there that could be a seed for another shot...but if he never understands that he really doesn't have you anymore, he won't feel the need to take you back.

3) When everything's going to pieces, and your ex is right in front of you all the time, it can be hard to make the right decisions. Flying by the seat of your pants reacting instead of just acting, you'll find it a lot tougher to work this out. What you need is some time and space alone to develop a plan of action.

It's not easy to predict what your best course of action is for getting back your ex. People in this situation behave differently than you'd naturally assume, so don't trust yor first impulses when dealing with your ex. You need a real plan based on how things really work, and without it you'll be sailing against the wind, with a blindfold on.

I recommend this separation to anyone just out of a breakup who wants to get her ex back. The benefits far outweigh the loneliness you'll feel, and think of how great it'll be to be reunited with him in a stronger relationship than ever. This breakup can actually bring you closer together than before, if you deal with it properly. Hopefully, this article has helped you learn a little more about how to do that. Good luck!
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