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How To Save Your Marriage And Keep It Alive

Jul 10, 2008
Can you really save a marriage that is fizzling out? When you first fall in love and get married, the last thing you would ever think about is if your marriage will fall apart.

You have your newfound love and you feel that your relationship will last forever. Unfortunately, things do not always happen that way.

If left unfixed, a once happy marriage could dwindle down to a dull relationship with your spouse. Worse yet, it could lead into an unforeseen divorce on the horizon.

Yes, it is certainly possible to save your marriage. It will certainly take some time and a lot of effort, but your hard work will greatly pay off in the end.

Many couples go through different phases in the duration of their relationship. The first period is the honeymoon phase. This is when you are hopelessly in love and cannot keep your hands off one another.

Both you and your partner are inseparable and you do virtually everything together. You want this phase to last forever. Some people decide to engage into marriage at this point while others decide to wait.

Once you have been together with your spouse for a while, the marriage tends to relax a bit. You oftentimes dont do everything together as you once used to and the two of you arent constantly all over each other anymore as you once were during the honeymoon phase.

While that is relatively common and not considered a bad thing, it could possibly lead to some downfalls later on in the marriage. One spouse may feel that they are being neglected because they do not get that constant attention anymore.

One of the last phases the marriage goes through comes after having children. In a family that has children, it is common for parents to put their children first before their spouse.

Alone time for the parents then gets pushed aside in order for the children to be nurtured and cared for. Care must be taken to harmoniously balance time alone with your spouse and together the children, or else problems will begin to surface.

In order to keep your marriage alive, it needs to be understood that together time is necessary for both partners. You will need to schedule some time to be alone with your spouse.

If you have children, it is very easy to get caught up in your everyday lifestyle of having a family, which may leave you no time for yourself or your spouse.

This can result in upcoming problems. One of the best things you can do to save your marriage from going to pieces is to maintain open communication. Tell your partner what is on your mind and how you feel before things start to unravel.

Many couples have found it very beneficial to schedule a date night, such as every Tuesday. It should be marked on the calendar and known by the entire family that Mom and Dad are going out every Tuesday night.

Of course arrangements need to be made beforehand to hire a sitter to care for the kids. If you cannot find a sitter, you can reschedule your date night for the weekend.

Your kids could then go over to a friends house to spend the night. This would give you both the entire evening to rekindle that flame and keep things fired up in the relationship. That roaring fire can surely help save your marriage over an icy cold cocktail at your favorite restaurant or lounge.

Very importantly, make it a rule to never go to bed angry. If you are having some sort of argument or problem that the two of you are not agreeing on, make it a point to always make up before you go to sleep. This helps to resolve any resentment issues you may have in the morning.

It is also important to complement each other at least once a day. In actuality, it is the smaller things that matter the most. A little complement about how beautiful she looks in her blouse, or how handsome he looks in his shirt can go a long way.

It greatly helps to boost the self-esteem of your partner and it makes them feel special in the sense that you took the time to notice something and compliment them on it.

Save your marriage by showing your partner that you really mean it and you really care. They will love and appreciate you more for it!
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Alan Largo is the creator and administrator of Save Any Marriage and strives to assist others identify with their adverse marital situation through informative reviews. You're invited to visit Save Any Marriage to read his most recent article review.
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