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Online Dating Not Working For You? Try Paying It Forward...

Jul 18, 2008
Do you ever realize that Online profiles begin with the word "I"? Even though you are the one who is longing for true love, the online dating process really should not be about you.

Chaszey says: "Internet Dating or Dating in general is not about you, it's about the other person, it's about Compound Interest. It's about Paying It Forward."

"What do I have to pay forward?" you may wonder.

Let's give this some thought. The Online Dating industry takes in over $2 billion dollars per year, with more than 10 million daters looking for true love online. With that many people online looking for true love just like you are, you will most likely spend your time rejecting others and getting rejected yourself. Another way of saying this is once you have made your outstanding profile public, what's left to do is really weeding through the dozens or even hundreds of men or women that come towards you.

Meanwhile, and until you have found your "one and only," focus on strengthening your own kindness by earning karma points. Every time you need to say "thank you but no thank you," instead of hitting the ready-button, formulate an e-mail that flows with grace and kindness.

Chaszey says: "Whatever we give out comes back to us tenfold. What people forget is that while people should earn our trust, no one should have to earn our respect and our kindness. Each and every person deserves these free gifts from us, for the simple fact that we are fellow humans living on the same planet, enjoying the same sunlight and walking fairly similar journeys called life. And let's recognize that everyone is looking for the exact same thing: Unconditional Love."

Learning how to send graceful rejections that don't feel like rejections to your suiters takes time, effort and a kind heart. Chaszey says: "It's so worth it because soon you realize your positive karma points are subject to compound interest and before you know it your life is changing in dramatic ways that you never dreamed possible. It's hard to explain, but so worth it."

These karma points serve like a bonus to help you build a new character and create a stronger and kinder you so you can bring into your experience the person you truly deserve.

So next time you want to hit that preset button sending a "no thanks" message, think about taking the time to read the person's profile and sending them a reply filled with kindness, because they really deserve it.

Chaszey Sandhriel is Your Online Dating Coach. She can help you get the results you deserve. Visit her website to download free tips and participate in free tele-seminars, www.YourOnlineDatingCoach.com, or you can reach her at 415.419.7952.
About the Author
Before you create your own Internet Dating Profile, you must check out Chaszey's "Do's and Dont's of Successful Online Dating Profiles. You can retrieve the free report by visiting http://www.youronlinedatingcoach.com.
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