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Helpful Hints To Get That Second Date

Jul 19, 2008
You've had the first date and would like to have a second date with her now. You have the sense that things went well, and consider the time spent together. It wasn't so easy to figure out what she was feeling though, as it often isn't on the first date. Nothing catastrophic occurred, so the possibility of another date with this woman are pretty good, all in all.

It's a good practice to take the time to review the first date, with pen poised and paper on hand. What did you do together? What did you like about the different things you did together? It helps to understand where you are coming from, and data honed from this exercise will provide a bit of helpful information for preparing to call that lady again. Though subtle in manner perhaps, recalling particular things about the first date in later conversation is a very good way of showing you are interested in this woman.

Confidence is mandatory when preparing to make the follow-up call to the first date. Whether by reciting affirmations, exercising to build up adreneline, talking with a good friend who supports you, there are any number of ways leading up to feeling good about yourself. It takes courage sometimes to make that call, and so, without being cocky, this is a very good action to undertake before placing that call. Just make sure the confidence doesn't cross over into egotism or grandiosity.

Dial that number! when she answers, make sure you clearly state who are to avoid any embarrassing and confidence deflating moments. Make sure you talk for a couple minutes about her. How she's doing, what she did today, are vital questions to ask. She'll know you're a good listner, and women like that! Ask one follow-up question to her answers. Any more and she may think you're bugging her, but asking an extra question might just give you points in her book.

Now for the important moment! Inquire about her plans later in the week. Women like time to prepare to go out with men, so it's important to leave her some time to do this. If she's available, just ask her if she wants to get together. Keep it casual, since you don't want to frighten her away. If it happens that she does have plans, tell her why you called. You had a lot of fun with her last time, and would like to know if she's interested in going out with you again. Be sure to keep it light, and don't sound desperate!

Great if her answer was yes! Perhaps this isn't the way it played out, however. Keep your chin up. Give her your number and tell her to call when she has some free time if she's interested in hooking up again. Sometimes women like to play hard to get. She may call at some future time, when she feels more in control of the situation, or she may not call at all. In any event, continue to live your life, without waiting by the phone, or forgetting to exhale.

The great thing is that if that second date doesn't happen, you can always try again with another woman. If you did everything as it should have been done on the first date, like being polite and a gentleman, listening when she talked, and things like that and she still doesn't call, then maybe she just isn't the one for you. At least you've only invested in one date at this point, and you can use the experience to better prepare for your next date with someone new.

Lastly, be sure to be yourself. People like people. Trying to be someone you are not, will only land you in trouble down the road. Be kind. Be courteous. Be a good listener. Be involved. Be spontaneous! If you can follow these simple directions, i'm sure that second date will be a piece of cake.
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