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Is Internet Dating Not Happening For You? Try This...

Jul 19, 2008
Has it ever ocurred to you that most profiles are beginning with "I?" And while this may make sense to you, because you are the one looking for true love, this process can be made a lot more enjoyable if you can make it about the other person.

Chaszey says: "Internet Dating or Dating in general is not about you, it's about the other person, it's about Compound Interest. It's about Paying It Forward."

"Paying WHAT forward??" you may ask.

Think about it. There are more than 10 million Daters registered with Internet Dating sites paying over $2 billion dollars per year in the hopes of finding true love. If everyone is looking for just that one person, the likelihood that we spend most of our time rejecting others and being rejected ourselves is a given. In other words, once your sizzling profile is public, all you can focus on is weeding through the hundreds or even thousands of men and women that flood towards you.

Meanwhile, and until you have found your "one and only," focus on strengthening your own kindness by earning karma points. Every time you need to say "thank you but no thank you," instead of hitting the ready-button, formulate an e-mail that flows with grace and kindness.

Chaszey says: "Whatever we give out comes back to us tenfold. What people forget is that while people should earn our trust, no one should have to earn our respect and our kindness. Each and every person deserves these free gifts from us, for the simple fact that we are fellow humans living on the same planet, enjoying the same sunlight and walking fairly similar journeys called life. And let's recognize that everyone is looking for the exact same thing: Unconditional Love."

Learning how to send graceful rejections that don't feel like rejections to your suiters takes time, effort and a kind heart. Chaszey says: "It's so worth it because soon you realize your positive karma points are subject to compound interest and before you know it your life is changing in dramatic ways that you never dreamed possible. It's hard to explain, but so worth it."

Karma points always add or subtract from our character, and we want to create a stronger and kinder new you, that will attract the person you deserve.

So before you hit that pre-programmed "thanks but no thanks" button, take a few minutes and read the other person's profile anyway, and send them a response that is filled with your kindness, not because they deserve it, but because that's who you are.

Chaszey Sandhriel is Your Online Dating Coach. She can help you get the results you deserve. Visit her website to download free tips and participate in free tele-seminars, www.YourOnlineDatingCoach.com, or you can reach her at 415.419.7952.
About the Author
Before you create your own Online Dating Profile, you must read Chaszey's "Do's and Dont's of Successful Online Dating Profiles. You can download the free report by visiting http://www.youronlinedatingcoach.com.
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