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Do You Find It Hard To Meet Women?

Jul 22, 2008
We are presented with dozens of opportunities to meet women every single day.

Whether its at the night club, internet, grocery store, coffee shop, or whatever. The fact is, as we live our lives, we are presented with lots of opportunities.

But how often do YOU take advantage of these opportunities?

I'm willing to bet its not that many.

If you just took advantage of ONE of these opportunities every day, that means in just one year, you'd meet 365 women.

Surely, out of 365 women, don't you think you'd meet at least ONE girl you'd want to be with (and who'd want to be with you)?

So what's keeping us from doing so? Why do we allow such opportunities with women pass us by?

Most people would say its "fear of rejection" that's crippling us, but I don't agree with that.

The reality is we get rejected in our lives all the time. If we were truly afraid of rejection, we wouldn't be able to operate in every-day society.

I think what really happens is that we always tend to PUNISH ourselves when an interaction with a woman doesn't go the way we want it to.

Think about it...

How many times have you beat yourself up over saying the wrong thing, or saying nothing at all?

How often have you made yourself feel dumb and hurt at "blowing your shot" with a girl?

When things didn't go your way with a woman, how often do you call yourself "stupid" or a "loser"?

The truth is - we are always TOO HARD on ourselves when it comes to meeting women.

We lay HUGE amounts of guilt on ourselves, and beat ourselves down constantly, because our attempt at meeting a new woman failed.

In the "real world," its no big deal. The girl moves on with her life, and you move on with yours.

But in your mind, that self-punishment for failure can last days, weeks, and in some cases even MONTHS.

We make ourselves feel SO BAD, that our brain wants to avoid such punishment in the future by KEEPING us from approach women!

This is what causes APPROACH ANXIETY.

Experiencing that nervous feeling about approaching women is a self defense mechanism our brains implement to keep us from going through the pain we inflict on ourselves when something doesn't go the way we want it to.

And it all stems from the BEATING we give ourselves.

You must learn to congratulate yourself for trying, rather than beating yourself up for failing, if you want to meet tons of beautiful, smart, fun, and amazing women.

You have to understand that if a woman doesn't go for what you have to offer, it's not a reflection of your self worth. Its simply a learning process.

The more you do it, the better you get at it!

And the less you beat yourself up over the times when meeting women don't go well, the easier it is to do.
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