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You Might Be Turning Him Off Unintentionally

Aug 2, 2008
Your boyfriends come and go even if it seems that you have been doing the right things. Could it be that you might be turning them off unintentionally? Take for example the usual scenario of casually sleeping with the guy and pretending that you don't want a deeper relationship at the same time, hoping that he will eventually come to his senses by himself.

Some women think that this is the easiest way to get into a guy's heart. She would think that no man can say no to sex... or could they?

The sad reality is that men commit to a relationship with a unpredictable women more easily. Sleeping with him frequently would make him realize that you're quite predictable, and that you've given him the best that you have to offer. If you make him see everything now, you can almost be sure that he'll get tired of you easily and begin to plan his exit route. That is the sad reality. So before you sleep with him, your best bet to hold on to him longer is for you to foster a deep and meaningful relationship with him first.

Sleeping with him too early in the relationship is just one of the many ways you might be turning him off unintentionally. To increase the probability of you getting into a more meaningful and long lasting relationship, be aware of the following mistakes and try not to commit them.

Trying to be his BFF. One of the most common mistakes is trying to be buddies to win his heart. A woman might always there beside him whenever he needs somebody to talk to, and helps him fix his problems all the time. Ideally, this is a good thing, as the truth is that the best lovers are also friends. But the wrong move comes when you try to be "just really good friends" and forget the romance. If you do this, he may possibly think of you as best friend material and nothing else. Of course you do not want him to tell you, his best friend, about the other girl he likes a lot, right?

Making him jealous. Another mistake is when women try to tell their men about the other men in their lives. Worse is when she makes up stories of her experiences in dating other men, just to see how he will react. Other women take this a notch higher and actually go out with men they don't like just to let the boyfriend realize that maybe he wants her back.

This will only work for men who are immature and can't take control over their egos. Husband-material, meanwhile, will casually tell you that it's your happiness that he wants and he will just fade out of the picture because, after all, you "have" someone new now.

Criticism. Shaming your man because he is not ready to commit and itemizing all his faults and shortcomings is backfire on you. Trying to make him "grow up" by criticizing him is a wrong move. You can't make him commit to you so that he can become a better man. This strategy might work if you're selling something on the Internet, but this will make him transfer his affections to the next woman instead of you.

Do not forget that he is on the lookout for the woman he will love and enjoy life with, not a friend nor a life coach. So think about the common mistakes listed and avoid them at all costs.
About the Author
Aaron Adams specialises in relationship matters for women.

Visit http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com to find out how to attract and keep the man you like.
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