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Getting Back With Your Ex? Better Deal With These Issues First

Aug 4, 2008
The good things are never appreciated until they have been lost. Your girlfriend may be the source of aggravation that causes you to consider a life without her. We find ourselves habituated to fights over the smallest of things.

In the heat of the moment we may decide that we've had enough and decide to separate. Then we start to feel the great emptiness of her absence and realize that a we've made a horrible mistake. If you've just broken up with your girlfriend, take a little time off to collect your thoughts about your relationship. The following points will help to guide your reflection.

1.) Do you have any strong reservations about getting back together with your ex? If so, careful consideration about your reasons for continuing the relationship is required. Don't forget the reasons for breaking up with her in the first place. Will your relationship 'history' repeat itself? If so, what will be different this time? Changing your behavior is not an easy thing to do.

It's pointless to continue if the same old problems never get resolved. Fear of being single, of loneliness, or of the unknown are poor reasons to continue a bad relationship. If a better relationship is just around the corner, there's no need to get stuck in a poor one. If your present circumstances are really bad, then any change will most likely be for the better.

2.) Be honest with yourself and admit to your shortcomings and actions. No matter what you did, anger makes you rationalize and justify your behavior. It will always shift the blame away from yourself. The necessary changes cannot be made until you break free of this trap.

Accepting responsibility is an indication of strength and maturity. This will be very attractive to her. Don't expect her to take responsibility for her share of the blame. This will surely cause resentment. An adult can't be forced in this way. This may work with a child but not with your ex.

3.) Any changes and improvements made to yourself must be permanent if you want a permanent relationship with your ex. If you want the new relationship to last, the improvements that you've made to yourself will have to be permanent. History doesn't always have to repeat itself.

Taking some time to cool off and to think is vital to deciding what to do next. What you choose to do after a breakup with your girl will have a profound impact on your future relationship. Take your time, Use your head, and then choose your next course of action.
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