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5 Things You Need To Ask Yourself Before You Breakup

Aug 9, 2008
Which is better, the one doing the breaking up or the one being broke up with?

All the attention is usually paid to the people being dumped, rarely do we take the time to think about what it's like to be on the other side. Breaking up is tough on both people.

Not a position you desire to be in, you can have feelings of guilt, sadness, anger and depression when you make the decision to break up with someone.

To relieve some of these fears, here's a list of the 5 Things You Need To Ask Yourself Before You Breakup.

1: Is There Abuse Involved?

Physical Abuse: He/She hits, slaps or shoves you.
Verbal Abuse: He/She degrades you with harsh words and insults.
Psychological Abuse: This involves controlling behavior, emotional extortion/blackmail, or uncontrolled jealousy.

Abuse can not be tolerated or put up with. You are never going to be able to change the other person no matter what they say. The only thing you can do is run as fast as you can and don't look back.

2: Are There Any a Dramatic Changes in My Life?

Job/Career change, moving to a new home, problems at work or an illness -- any of these things can cause problems. Being stressed out about something, weather it's your job or problems with the family, you can be tempted to transfer these feelings to your partner. You may think that if you break up this relationship your problems will go away. But the reality is, you have to face these problems and not blame them on your partner.

3: How Happy Am I With This Relationship?

Wanting to be totally in love with your partner 24/7 is a fantastic idea to think about, but this usually is not the way things go, the reality is relationships seldom meet these ideals. Many people expect that 100 percent satisfaction with their partners is the way it must be.

Ask yourself: Be Honest with yourself Now, Am I happy with the relationship 80 percent of the time or more?

Yes-- then you're doing well with this relationship.
No-- Work needs to be done or consider moving on.

4: Am I frustrated and have I tried to discuss my concerns?

Some of us think that our partner should be able to read our minds knowing our wants and needs without us ever having to communicate.

Communication is necessary in every relationship.

Before you show your partner the door, discuss your doubts and concerns.
Hint for you Gals: Us Guys are not telepathic, we can use a little direction from time to time.

5: Will I to Work at this Relationship?

Whatever your doubts and concerns, there's one thing that make make or end the relationship: your desire to work on the relationship together. If you're not both pledged to improving your relationship together, there's not much hope that it will work out or last.

Saying just words what the other person wants to hear is not good enough, actions speak louder than words. When both of you make a united effort to work on the relationship to make the changes that are needed, there's no reason to say GOOD BYE forever.
About the Author
A good relationship is worth saving. The right relationship can be very hard to find so don't just throw it away. Watch the free video at The Magic of Making Up that goes over the first step to getting back together.
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