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How to Stop Hooking Up With the Rejects

Aug 12, 2008
You may have been frustrated at times when you see your fabulous girl friend going out with someone who is way beyond her league. Worse, you see her enduring all the bad things that this guy has been giving her! And when you heard they broke up, you were joyful beyond belief thinking that finally the relationship made in hell is finally over. Until you heard her begging him to come back!

It would be surprising to know that there are women who attract the most unpleasant boyfriends. It even seems that these women jump from one abusive and rude boyfriend to the other.

At this point, if you think that you are that woman we are talking about then read on because this article is for you. Or if you know someone who is in this situation, help her get out of the hooking-up-with-the-rejects curse.

The truth is, it is not only the boyfriend's fault as the women who attract the rejects do have qualities that need changing as well. The following bad characteristic may remind you of your girl friend who keeps on attracting the rejects. And this can help you stop attracting the rejects as well.

Unfavorable Characteristic #1: Believing that you can improve your boyfriend

Unconsciously, some women tend to believe that when they enter a relationship they can improve their boyfriend's behavior. Although there are varying reasons, but sometimes they are just drawn towards the bad boys. And when these bad boys show their not so good side, she automatically goes into the fixing mode.

The truth is, you can never change your boyfriend's behavior by telling him all about his flaws. If you do this, you would only make him see you as a nagging girl friend who is a perfectionist and that would make him leave you as fast as he can.

Unfavorable Characteristic #2: Being unaware of the fact that you are a magnet for the rejects.

A lot of women who attract the rejects deny the fact that there is something wrong with them even if they've been in and out of relationships with the same kinds of men. The sad thing is that they don't make an effort to avoid these men, but nurture the relationship instead.

The next time your girl friends go to you and ask why they are stuck with the same kind of men over and over again, tell them what they are doing wrong.

If you find yourself trying to "improve" your boyfriend, stop! It won't do you any good as it simply doesn't work. Another reason why that won't work is that your boyfriend does not need his girlfriend to act like his mother, teacher or psychiatrist to tell him what's wrong. If he does change because of your nagging, he may soon realize that he needs his mom, his teacher or his psychiatrist and not you, his girlfriend.

Be kind to yourself by not getting involved in men because you think they need improving. It will not work. If you want to stop seeing the rejects and land yourself a good man, then improve yourself first. The good men aren't on the lookout for a woman to fix them - they're keeping their eyes open for women who are great lovers.
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Aaron Adams specialises in relationship matters for women. Visit http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com to find out how to find and attract the love of your life.
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