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3-Stage Process for Getting Your Ex Back

Aug 25, 2008
A breakup is a rotten thing for anyone to have to go through, but you don't have to despair about it. Even when it seems like things are unravelling with the one your love, rest assured that it is indeed possible to pull it back together...and I can help you do that!

There is a lot involved in getting your ex back, but I've managed to assemble and consolidate all the information I can pull in and put it into an easy-to-understand 3-step process. With each and every step filed under one of three basic stages, you can literally take it one step at a time to make sure you do it right and get what you're after.

Stage 1 - Cut Off Contact: I know it seems like the last thing you'd want to do, but in truth the smartest and best move directly after a breakup is to sever your ties with your ex and just give him/her some space to breathe and time to think. Pushing him/her too much right now isn't going to help you much, and you have enough to worry about on the home front.

All relationships end because of problems, with one person so dissatisfied with things that he/she has no choice but to end it. Typically, those problems lie with the person who was left. This means YOU, but don't worry too much. All you have to do is make use of this "downtime" and really analyze your relationship to figure out what the problems were, and make whatever sacrifices, compromises, or changes to yourself that will be necessary for your partner to be happy. I know it seems a little unfair and daunting, but it's what's needed if you really want to be with your ex.

Stage 2 - Bring Back Contact: Usually the self-work process takes long enough that by the time it's well underway enough time has passed to make reestablishing contact with your ex acceptable. It's important not to make this contact too aggressive or threatening; a simple phone call or email seeing how your ex is doing is about as far as you should go. Whatever you do, don't start talking about getting back together yet...not unless your ex is already primed for it and brings it up him/herself.

If that went without conflict, it's probably all good to go ahead and slowly build contact back up with the odd phone call or email here and again. Don't push things too quickly, or you'll drive your ex away, but take things slowly and you'll probably end up spending some decent time together. Use the times you're with each other to passively remind your ex of how great the two of you used to fit, by doing things the both of you always enjoyed as a couple. The memories combined with the new and improved you should really soften up your ex to the idea of reuniting and possibly even make it be his/her idea.

Stage 3 - Maintenance: Chances are good that you two will get back together, no problem. The compromises and sacrifices you've made should really smooth things out, but it's vital that you not let yourself fall back into your old ways. If you do, it'll end just like it did the first time, and you may not be able to salvage it again.

Always remember when you're using this method that it's based entirely on fixing the source of your problems and passive techniques to get your ex back. You won't get very far unless you make sure you've solved your problems outright, and aren't being too aggressive in your pursuit of your ex. If at all possible, getting back together should be your ex's idea, not yours. So keep that in mind, and make sure you don't ruin your chances with the one you love.
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