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Making A Plan To Get Your Ex Back

Sep 5, 2008
Your lover is gone, your dreams are shattered. You don't want anyone else in your life, and you certainly don't want to be alone. Is there anything you can do to get your ex back? It's entirely possible, but you need to do some strategic planning before you make your first move.

The first step in determining out how to get your ex back is to figure out what went wrong in the first place. You know what happened - your ex left you - but you need to understand WHY this happened. Your ex leaving is just the outcome of this unfortunate situation. Did your ex run off with someone else? It's quite possible they're looking for something that they once found in you that's no longer there. Maybe they just left. Then it's possible they're looking for some quality they no longer see in you. Understanding this is key to planning your strategy.

Now is the time for some serious thinking. Find a quiet place where you can be completely alone and feel relaxed, and start thinking back to when you first met.

Think about what attracted each of you to one another. As your relationship continued to grow, what were the key reasons you stayed together? It might be helpful to make a list of the things about your ex that you were most attracted to, and the things you did that caused positive reactions from them. As the two of you grew to the point where you started sharing your deepest thoughts, what did they say were the qualities in you that pleased them the most? Getting back to this point would definitely help in getting your ex back.

Once you have relived the early days in your mind, you should be able to see yourself as the person your ex was attracted to. And if you're completely honest with yourself, you'll probably realize that that person is not the you of today. This is not really a bad thing; after all, most people do change at some point in time. But it might give you a hint as to why your ex left. Since you are no longer that person, your mate will seek those qualities in someone else.

Let's focus once more on the example where your ex left you for someone else. When you were in those put your best foot forward days of dating, making your partner happy was your number one priority. You were more than likely attentive, caring, loving and romantic - always making sure your significant other felt like the center of your universe.

But as weeks and months went on and the newness wore off, you started taking your ex for granted. It happens all the time. The pressures of day to day living seemed to get in the way, and the glorious feelings of your romantic moments together were a distant memory. It's just like the old song The Thrill Is Gone. But don't feel like you're the only one - it usually happens with both partners.

Everyone has a need to feel loved. Everyone wants to feel important to the one they love. In order to get your ex back and make them stay, you need to recreate that aura of love, passion and desire that was there in the early days of your relationship.
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