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Getting Your Ex Back - A Serious 3 Step Plan

Sep 12, 2008
"I hate telling you this but I think we should stop seeing each other" are the final words your ex says to you before they hang up their cell phone. You call them back four or five times, but the phone is busy. Do they actually mean this?

If they were being serious you can do one of two things - accept it or try to get your ex back. If you picked the latter, here's a serious plan for helping you get what you want.

First of all, you need to realize that for whatever reason that made your ex break up with you, there is always a chance to get them back. It may take some time, and depending on how badly you want your ex back, ask yourself if you're willing to be persistent in doing so. If your ex means a lot to you, then perhaps they don't see something in you right now because you aren't showing them the qualities that made them fall for you in the first place. If you do believe in yourself and take action, then you can get back with your ex. It's that simple.

Step 1 - Don't Call Back

As hard and contradictory as this is, don't call your ex and tell them how much you miss them or how sorry you are, etc. Give them some space! One of the main reasons why your ex broke up with you was probably that you were too clingy. You called your ex when they were out with their friends. You wanted attention from your ex every time they were around you. You wanted to give them as much attention to them when you were around them. Basically, you constantly smothered them with affection and in return, this turned them off and even to a point became annoying. It's normal to show affection to someone else, but remember you also have to be able to be a chase and make them chase after you! So as of right now, do the opposite of what you would normally do. Instead of AOL instant messaging them, sending text messages to them, or calling them, just cut all these things loose. Don't contact them for a week to a month. During this process, they'll start wondering why you haven't called them, and it will simply because you are busy doing things in your life that are important to you.

Step 2 - Do Activities

If your ex contacts you at any time to talk to you, act casual. Act like their friend and please don't act like their girlfriend or boyfriend again. They just broke up with you. Show them that you understand that they made that decision and be mature about it by being nice to them and acting like they're another friend. Yes I know this is contradictory but they'll start wondering why you aren't head over heels for them at the moment. This will get them thinking, and then politely tell them that you have to go because you are busy and you should be. Just because your ex broke up with you doesn't mean you can't do activities and have fun. It might not be the same without your ex but it'll keep your mind off of them. Go watch a movie with some friends, join a club that your passionate about, play some sports, go rock climbing, take up a hobby, go to a party, go clubbing and have some fun because you deserve it!

Step 3 - The Talk

If you've gotten to a point where you are capable of doing things without your ex, then you have not only your dramatically improved inner self being, but most likely a new and different person that your ex now sees - someone that doesn't cling on to them every second and someone that is independently capable of managing their lives by themselves. Set up a date with your ex. Whether your ex calls you to hang out with you first or you want to call them to hang out. If you're really at a stage where you can talk to your ex just as friends then role play as if you guys "were on a date" - talk about random things, laugh, share memories, flirt, be playful, etc. It's inevitable that both of you guy's still have left over feelings for each other if you guys are being playful with to one another. Do this until you guys are able to resolve your issues, and if everything goes according to plan, there's a good chance that you and your ex will get back together.
About the Author
Tristan Lee is passionate about helping other people get their ex's back . If you want a complete, detailed plan on how to do this, please visit http://www.expotions.com .
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