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The Difference Between Pick Up Lines and Icebreakers

Aug 17, 2007
If you ask most men they will tell you that they are not sure what to say or what to do when they approach an attractive woman. They want to know what the latest pickup line is and they will search the Internet for different websites to obtain different ammunition so they can impress a woman.

The problem with this approach is that it doesn't work because the guy is trying to be someone he is not. Pickup lines have their place as long as they don't sound like pickup lines.

Let's take a closer look at what a pick up line is and what an icebreaker is. A pickup line is generally just what the name implies and that it is designed to pick up on a woman. But most men walk away feeling frustrated because their intention was to pick her up instead of simply trying to get to know her or trying to make her feel good.

A far better approach is to use a solid icebreaker. An icebreaker is far more effective because it comes off as more natural.

Let me give you an example of what I am talking about.

Let's say that you are at a private house party and that there are a lot of guests and people are standing around talking and having a good time. You see a woman from across the room, she has long hair, a beautiful smile, and she's holding her drink out as though to say "come over and talk to me big boy".

Since you are a confident male you walk up to her and you simply say, "Excuse me, but I was wondering if you have ever heard of gazing into a person's spirit?" And most women will respond to that by saying they have never heard of gazing.

This is known as an icebreaker because you're walking up to a woman and simply asking her if she knows about something. Whether she does her she doesn't is irrelevant because if she knows about it she will give you her opinion. If she doesn't know about it then you can educate her and show her what it means.

Now for this example it's really not that important what gazing into a person's spirit really means because you can pretty much make that up. The important thing is is that you are using an icebreaker instead of a pickup line.

In other words, you are communicating that you are a fun person that you have a certain knowledge on a certain subject. You can find out all kinds of neat sayings despite going to Google.com and doing a search on different topics.

Here is another good example of an icebreaker. One criteria of a good icebreaker is that it leaves the woman feeling good about herself and feeling good about your interaction together, even if nothing romantic transpires between both of you.

One of my favorite icebreakers is to simply ask women if they know what their horoscope said today. This is a win-win situation for both of you because even if she does know hat her horoscope is you can simply ask her what it said and then you can comment on it. If she doesn't know what her horoscope is you can simply make something up.

I don't recommend you do that because you can simply go on the Internet and look up all the horoscopes for that day and simply read them a couple times and you'll be able to remember the highlights of each one. Women love talking about their horoscope.

So go out there and try some icebreakers instead of trying so hard to pick up a pretty woman. You will find that this approach is 10 times more effective than using pickup lines.
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Scott Patterson is a master at meeting, approaching, and attracting women. To find out how you can pick-up ANY woman in 7 simple steps, check out his free ecourse
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