A Break Up Does Not Have To Be The End Of Your Relationship; Tips For Making Up
Break ups can be devastating. You may feel that you have lost your best friend in addition to a significant other. The adjustment to such a loss can take time and a lot of tears. You are likely to receive advice about how to move forward from well-meaning friends and family members. The problem is that the advice they give may not be beneficial to you. If your relationship has ended you may want nothing more than to get it back. The good news is that is possible, a break up does not have to be the end of your relationship.
But before you start contacting your ex there are a few things you should do and a lot of things you should consider. First of all you need to take time for yourself. This time period varies from one individual to another. Some people need a day or two and others may need up to a week. This period is for you to get the majority of your sadness out. Although it does not feel good to cry it is healthy to express your emotions. So allow yourself that but put a limit on how long you will spend in that phase.
Next you need to examine the relationship that has ended. Consider all aspects of it. Decide if it was a healthy relationship and if it really is one that you want to pursue. Think about how your relationship began, what it was like in the beginning and how it changed over time. Determine what if anything caused the changes in your relationship. The point is that you do not want to rekindle the relationship only to have it end again.
This time around you need to prevent the problems from ever happening. Because you have already experienced what the problems are you can now be proactive in preventing them. Another important point is to know exactly what it is that you want from this or any relationship.
During this same time period you should be doing some things that you enjoy. This might be spending time with friends or enjoying a hobby, or anything that you have put on hold during the past.
After you feel sufficiently strong enough and knowledgeable enough you can begin planning how to get your ex back. You will need to determine how he or she feels about you. Consider whether they have gone through the same sadness and devastation that you have over the loss of the relationship.
When you begin contacting your ex you should begin with a short phone call or even an email. Do not pressure your ex into a meeting. If necessary you could arrange for an accidental meeting. Another idea is to call your ex and remind them about something that you have of theirs asking when you could meet to deliver it.
Do not present yourself as being needy. Go slowly and when the relationship starts again work on being completely honest with your ex about everything. Build a sense of trust, honesty and friendship first. Always respect your partner and expect no less from him or her. These elements added to love will create a great and lasting relationship.
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Debbie Allen is an Internet marketer & writer.
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