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You Hit It Off And You Can Not Spend Too Much Time Together
You seem to have everything in common and you know that your lover wants you as much as you want them, so what is the hold up? It can be confusing and frustrating when you want to sleep with someone and you can not get them to reciprocate. Whats going on? The fact of the matter is that there are a lot of different reasons that your new love interest may not be ready to be your lover.
Perhaps the person that you are ready to sleep with still is not sure that they are ready to sleep with you because they are not sure that you are someone that they want to spend time with or get intimate with. If a person is not positive how they feel about someone, they are not going to want to have sex. Just give them time, be honest about who you are and what you want, and chances are they will decide how they feel about you and your relationship can move forward.
Many times people hold out on having sex because they aren not sure how YOU really feel about them. The last thing that most people want, especially women, is to have sex with someone that they really like only to find out afterward that it was not about love or intimacy, it was just about the sex. Be sure that you are clear about how you feel, as sometimes this is all someone needs.
Some people hold out for religious reasons. While the person may really want to have sex with you, they may not believe in sex before marriage. You should be sure that you talk about this so you understand what you are up against. If this is the case, will it be a deal breaker or will you be willing to move forward with the relationship? Generally this is not something that you can talk someone out of, so you need to choose to respect it or not.
Many people just want to take it slow. If you have not been together all that long you may find that the person is just hesitant to rush into having sex. If the person has not had sex before, just has not had much sexual experience, or has experienced a bad break up, they are going to be less likely to rush into sexual relationships. The only thing you can really do is to be supportive and loving and wait until they are ready, which is something that is different for every person.
In a small portion of people, the reason why they are holding out is because they are dating other people. You may be the other personals and so they may be a bit more hesitant about getting involved sexually with you. This is not always the case, but in people who are seeing other people they are often a bit more hesitant to get involved, so be sure that you talk about this.
About the Author Rodrigo Rehn is a Relationships Expert, Linux Systems Administrator, Web Programmer, PHP Developer and CEO of FaceRomance online dating for singles.
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