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Love Or Lust That is the Question
So many people experience the enthralling emotions of a new relationship and instantly they feel as though they are in love. We have all been there, within days or weeks of meeting someone new and spending time with them, we are sure that we love them and that they have got to be the one. Often times this is not love at all, but lust, but how do you know the difference?
The best way to know if you are in love or in lust is to look at your relationship and see if the biggest thing you have in common is your physical attraction or passion.
If the best thing that you have going for you is what goes on between the sheets, then chances are that you are feeling lust and not love. This is not to say that people who work well in bed cannot be in love, but when this is the most obvious thing that you share, than the chances are that you are feeling lust but not quite there where love is concerned.
Look at how much you know about their life. Many times when we are sure that it is love we are just so excited about the new relationship and we do not realize that we know very little about who they are and our lives really do not overlap all that much.
Not only should you know where they live and what they do for a living, you should know about their family, where they grew up, and even know and interact with their friends and family members. It is only when you know about and are involved in other areas of their life that you can say it is true love because it gives you a glimpse of who this person is in every facet of their life.
Next, you need to consider whether the feeling is mutual. You may feel as though it is love, but if the feeling is not mutual generally you can classify it as lust. The feelings need to be mutual and both people need to share and want to be a part of a loving relationship for it to be love. This is not to say that one person cannot experience love before another, it is just to say that if the person does not love you back that it is generally not a love that you should follow.
Consider what your long term goals are. Do you even know what they want from the future? It is hard to say that you love someone and have a loving relationship with them when you want things that are so different from one another. Someone that you truly love shares some things in common with you and often wants some of the same things from life that you do. Make sure you take this into consideration when examining the relationship.
About the Author Rodrigo Rehn is a Relationships Expert, Linux Systems Administrator, Web Programmer, PHP Developer and CEO of FaceRomance online dating for singles.
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