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Dealing with the Loss of a Loved One When Tragedy Strikes
The loss of a loved one is difficult regardless of the circumstances but when tragedy strikes loss can be even more devastating. You are never prepared to lose anyone of any age but when a person is ill or elderly you tend to know the inevitable will happen. But when someone dies suddenly by tragic means such as a car accident, murder or other unexpected event it is especially difficult to deal with.
As an only child, I was very close to my mother. I honestly did not know what I would do without her. She passed away at the age of 73 after a blood clot caused a massive stroke. Needless to say, I was not prepared for my mothers death. Considering her age and the many health problems she suffered from, I knew the day would come. A few years later, I lost my husband. He died at the age of 37 from injuries sustained in a car accident. I was in complete shock. I had always believed we would grow old together. The loss of my husband sent me into a deep, dark depression. It seemed as if my life had ended when his did.
Dealing with the loss of a loved one is not easy but you must realize that you need to move forward after a period of grieving. The person you lost would not want you to stop living. There are others in your life who need and depend on you. Even if you dont have children, you do have friends, family and perhaps co-workers. There are several ways you can cope with grief and move forward even when you dont want to. There is no set amount of time to grieve and there is no sure method to coping with loss. Everyone is different and will grieve in their own way and time.
Keep a journal and jot down all of your feelings. You can express your anger, pain, hurt and grief through writing. No one ever has to read your journal if you dont want them to but it will be there for you when you need it. Keeping a journal can be very therapeutic and can help you work through the grief. Honor your loved one by creating a collage of photos or other crafts. It will help you stay busy and feel close to your lost loved one as well.
Dont be afraid to cry. You dont have to be strong. Cry as much as you need to and allow the pain and anguish to wash from your soul. Crying is a natural part of the healing process as well as the grieving process. If it helps you to talk then do so. Call a friend or relative. Join a grief support group. It helps to talk with others who are dealing with the loss of a loved one. It also reminds you that you are not alone. We never forget those we lost and we never stop loving them. Time may not completely heal all wounds but it does dull the pain.
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