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From Anger To Peace of Mind

Aug 17, 2007
Today we fear all kinds of external enemies. It is not so easy to realize, however, that the worse enemy we face is the anger within and the ways this poison affects so much of our lives. Even though we may want to forgive, anger can be ruthless in the course it takes, attacking and disrupting our body, mind and relationships.

However, there are specific, simple steps we can take to root this toxin out of our lives. As we do the results will be reflected not only in our mental and emotional well-being, but also in our physical health. When anger is rooted out, our lives and relationships become all they are meant to be.

Anger has many faces. It appears in various forms and creates different consequences. Anger that is overt is the simplest to deal with. When we or someone we know is openly angry, we know what we are up against and can address it directly.

Unfortunately, however, most anger lurks beneath the surface and manifests in endless, hidden ways as depression, anxiety, hopelessness, addiction, and low self esteem. It manifests in ways we are not aware of.

Getting Started

The first step in rooting anger out of our lives is becoming aware of it, recognize it for what it is and realize the devastation it creates. When anger is allowed to remain camouflaged it holds us in its grip and erodes the quality of our entire lives.

By recognizing the 24 forms of anger, we will be able to shine a flashlight on the hidden enemy. Becoming aware is the first step. Then we can choose to eliminate one form of anger a day. There are many wonderful antidotes we can take.. Instead of allowing anger to take hold, we simply replace it with a life giving, constructive, healing response.

To begin we will look at a few of the 24 forms of anger, and its effect upon your life. We will also explore some ways these forms of anger can be eliminated.

Some of The 24 Forms of Anger

1)Straighforward Anger- Attack.

This is anger that is clear-cut and easy to recognize. The anger comes right out. Many regret it afterwards, feeling they could not control themselves.This kind of anger has a life of its own, it rises like a flash storm and can easily turn into verbal, emotional or physical abuse.


You are angry, but hide it beneath a smile and present a false persona, pretending to be someone you are not. This behavior evolves into bad faith of all kinds. Although you think you are fooling others, in truth you are losing yourself and your own self-respect.


Depression is so pervasive these days, and it ranges the gamut from mild to severe. Depression is anger and rage turned against oneself It comes from not being able to identify or appropriately express the anger one is feeling. It then simply turns into depression, attack against the person who is experiencing it.

4)Passive Agression

This is a form of anger expressed not by what we do but by what we do not do. We refuse to give the other person what they ask for, want or need. In this manner we anger the other while making it seem as though they are the one that is overly demanding. This is a way of expressing anger without taking responsibility for it, and blaming the other for what we have set in motion.

Steps To Dissolving Anger

Needless to say there are many specific steps to take to undo different forms of anger. We will offer some sameples. The important point to realize is that anger can be deflated in a moment. We can choose to see things differently.

We can choose to make a different response.It takes only a moment to escalate a situation and in that same moment, the trouble can be de-escalated. We must stop in the middle of automatic anger that arises, and take charge of what is going on. We can and must decide that we will not let anger take over and rule. We have the right and will to choose our response.

Sample Ways To De-Esclate Anger:

1)Straightforward Attack:

Stop in the middle of a situation in which you either feel angry or are being attacked. Expand your vistas. Rather than respond in a knee-jerk manner, say to yourself, Like me, this person has suffered. Like me, this person wants to be happy, like me this person experiences loneliness and loss.

As you do this, you are recognizing the similarities and common humanity you share, rather than focus on the differences. For a moment, allow the person to be right. You have plenty of time to be right later. Ask yourself,what is more important to you, to be right orto be free of anger, to be compassionate?


This is a common form of anger that appears in many different ways. When you notice yourself pretending, lying,exaggerating or deceiving, stop. Tell the truth atthat moment. Be the truth.

If you do not know what the truth is, be silent and become aware of what the deepest truth is for you and the other. (This will not only restore good will, it will connect you with what is most meaningful.)


Make friends with yourself today. When we are depressed, we are rejecting, hating and blaming ourselves. Undo this false state of mind.

Find five things you admire and respect about who you are.Focus on sharing your good qualities with another. In depression we are only absorbed with ourselves. A wonderful antidote is to become absorbed with how you can reach out to and help another.

As we root anger out of our lives, and find meaningful substitutions not only our lives but the lives of our loved ones, friends and acquaintances will be lifted and enhanced.
About the Author
Dissolve anger easily in award winning book, The Anger Diet (30 Days to Stress Free Living) by Dr. Brenda Shoshanna. Psychologist,seminar leader. Contact at http://www.brendashoshanna.com.(212) 288-0028, mailto:topspeaker@yahoo.com.
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