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What Makes It An Affair?
There are many statistics out there relating to extra-marital affairs, or infidelity. These statistics seem to vary from poll to poll. Possibly because the issue of affairs is not one that comes with complete honesty. There are also various degrees to which an affair can be measured.
For instance, some would call a secretive online dialogue with your old sweetheart a harmless little thing that probably means nothing, while others could call that an emotional affair. Some would say that there is or was no affair with a co-worker because we only had lunch a few times a week there was never any sexual activity.
If you are secretively conversing with a third party in order to meet some need that your partner and you vowed to meet for one another, then you are opening the door for an affair. How far you let it go will determine how easy or difficult it will be to restore trust in the relationship. But, if you feel that you need to keep an outside relationship secret from your partner, that relationship has huge potential to not only become an affair but destroy your marriage!
Statistically, the occurrence of affairs where the woman is cheating is rapidly catching up to that of men. One set of statistics shows that 4.5% of wives admitted to having an affair and 5% of husbands. However, the reasons for cheating differ almost as much as the number of people involved.
Also, some stats show that 60% of men and 40% of women will have an affair in their lifetime. The odd thing is that only 8% of those polled said that they would cheat if they knew they wouldn'T get caught.
These numbers speak volumes to the seductive nature of how an affair develops! They tell me that most affairs don't start out with the intention of cheating. Nor do they typically start out with the intention of causing heart breaking pain for your spouse, children, and many others that will be affected. Yet, somehow that's where things end up.
It's not surprising to find that somewhere in the neighborhood of 80-90% of relationships that start out as affairs end with huge disappointment within six months after separating a marriage.
Think about it. The relationship started with deception. As well, the values of a person that would go after someone that is married are not typically such that they would be capable of a solid, lasting, and true love relationship. It would also be wise to assume that the, once married, person who was involved with two people, has not had time to process, bring healthy closure, before moving on.
If you want more information about how affairs develop, or if any of the following questions apply to you, you can visit my site by clicking the link below. What should I do (or not do) if I suspect my spouse? Maybe you are in a relationship that has become more than innocent. How do you break free and settle the issues of your marriage? Or, are you wondering if there is any hope left for your marriage after an affair?
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