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Too Desperate To Date
You haven't had a date in months, and it certainly isn't due to lack of trying! But for some reason nothing you do seems to work; not your flirting, not your internet dating profile and not your pleas to family and friends to introduce you to someone, anyone!
Chances are that when you're in love you wear your heart on your sleeve. Similarly, when you want a date so badly you can taste it, that desperation is evident in your behavior. Unfortunately, it makes potential daters run for the hills. Keep reading for tips to change your luck.
If you've ever played golf you know that there is such a thing as trying too hard. The more you concentrate on getting that little white ball into the hole, the worse your golf game becomes. Finding, and keeping, a date is no different. Try too hard and your date will just feel pressured.
How often in the past six months have you told a little white lie to a potential date? If the answer cannot be counted on one hand, then you're guilty of lying to impress. There are two unfortunate consequences of lying to impress; one, potential daters will sense your insincerity and two, you'll soon have a reputation as a liar.
Nobody likes a yes man, or woman for that matter. You may think that by agreeing with everything a potential date says that you'll come across as more likeable. Unfortunately nothing is further from the truth. Disagreeing, politely of course, with someone's opinion gives you the chance to voice your own, and gives potential daters the chance to discover who you are and how you feel about certain topics.
No one is going to want to date you if you let them walk all over you. Doormats are for entrance ways, not for dating! Showing potential dates that you won't tolerate shoddy treatment like them showing up late or not at all makes it clear that you respect yourself, and expect to be treated accordingly.
You sleep with someone even though you don't really want to. Have sex with whomever you want, provided you feel ready to do so. By doing otherwise you're setting yourself up as someone who'll go to any lengths to please someone; and that's desperation personified.
Desperate Daters will date anyone who has a heartbeat. If any of the above sounds like you, take a breather and use this dating downtime as an opportunity to for self improvement. Once you're at ease in your own skin, you'll no longer come across as desperate.
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