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Start Developing Your Self-Confidence: Forget About Your Fears

Aug 17, 2007
Self-confidence development is a matter of knowing first where you stand. Your terrain must be clear so your brain will be given the paths to restoring your self-esteem.

You can not direct yourself to a destination if you do not know where your footing is. You have to know where you are before you even get to your desired point.
No one on this earth is perfect. How stupid of us to even think that everyday must be a perfect day.
That we must be flawless. That we should live our lives and not worry about a single thing. Who ever planted that dumb idea anyway?

People often chat rubbish. Whatever motivates them surely had some fine reasons to make them think that perfection would answer it all.

It is of course quite okay to be perfect. There is no harm if you can accomplish that, but the thing is, can anyone truly accomplish it? You are risking too much when you do. We are not saying that you should leave the thought of perfection and be all the way imperfect and leave your life far from the main road.

When your idea of perfection restricts you to doing what you are supposed to do, this is no longer becoming helpful. You are sure to be frustrated.

Sometimes it is good to fall flat on your face. Get up and fall, get up and fall. There is nothing wrong with that. This may have been an over used line yet we still can find value in it- "we learn from mistakes". Yes indeed, we really learn from our mistakes.

It may be an painful thought to watch yourself jump and fall. But this is the only way from which you can learn and make you get over your fear of failing.

Failures are cruel but fearing your failures is silly. Failing is unavoidable, it is a part of our daily existence. Even the best people fall sometimes. And even the smartest and most beautiful people are laughed at with their thoughts and their actions.

Developing your self-confidence is no different. You must accept failures for you to know where your pitfalls are.

In war, a soldier hides because he still has hope that he would escape death. But he is a soldier. He has to fight and be ready to kill or be killed. There is only one reality that he can assume - that he is already dead. Unless he changes his mental state, he would continue to hide in ditches and avoid the bullets. But once he accepts that reality, he would start functioning as a soldier should be. He must accept the risks of failing and hope that by doing so, he has achieved greatness.

To improve your self-confidence, you have to take the risks first. That is, you either fall or achieve some great things. Failure will always knock at your door. But remember that the mere decision to stand and better yourself and your self-confidence has already made you a winner.

You do not need to be fearful to improving your self-confidence. Take stock of yourself and leave rid yourself of any negative thoughts. You may not be confident of yourself but your vision will push you to believing in the brighter sides of things.

The bottom line is, before we can truly start developing ourselves, we must forget the things that we are fearful about, especially the fear of failure itself. Once you have removed these obstacles, then you can begin revamping yourself with confidence-boosting thoughts and activities.

In the end, self improvements lie on clear grounds. Set your mind at ease, free from negative thinking. Free from thoughts that would only worsen your condition.
About the Author
Andrew Chin is a recognized authority on the subject of Self Confidence. His web site SelfImprovementsGuide.com provides a wealth of information on Self Confidence.
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