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Wedding Blunders are Not a Laughing Matter

Aug 17, 2007
We have all seen them. Some are big and some are smaller. But ultimately it does not matter if the wedding blunders are big or small. In the final analysis those are the elements or events that cause couples to squirm at the memory of their wedding day. Those are the events we want to avoid as much as possible. Some are as easy to avoid as showing a little self control while you are celebrating like controlling how much you drink. Other wedding blunders are a factor of how well you have thought your big day through.

Wedding Blunder Number One: Assuming that Your Big Day is About You

Yes, you are celebrating your wedding day, but that does not make you queen for the day. Your friends and relatives are there to celebrate you new commitment with you. And while they often will welcome the chance to help you out and even donate some hard work no one likes to be taken advantage of or taken for granted. Likewise your guests have come, often from great distances, to celebrate with you. Is it fair to make them go away for an hour or more while you have your pictures taken? For your out of town guests this is wasted time with nothing to do.

Wedding Blunder Number Two: Doing anything because, "That is How Weddings are Done"

I can't tell you how many weddings I have been to where the only real difference between one and the next were the faces involved. Yet, in a large number of those weddings I had worked with the young couple enough to know that they were not just like the other couples. They were distinct personalities, but for some reason they chose to put together weddings that were not. Your wedding is a commitment to a new life together as unique individuals and your wedding should reflect that individuality while still maintaining the serious nature of the vows you are exchanging. To do anything less is to short change yourself.

Wedding Blunder Number Three: Wasting Money

Weddings are an expensive proposition. We all know that. Every celebration has to have a place to celebrate, but not every wedding has to spend a ton on every element. For an individual with a background in the culinary arts the food and wedding cake might best represent who you are and choosing simplicity in the flowers might be wise. Why spend thousands of dollars on a wedding dress just because wedding dresses are supposed to look a certain way?

Wedding Blunder Number Four: Not Buying Thoughtful Favors

Your guests have chosen to spend a day with you to celebrate your wedding, often traveling a significant distance to do so. Do not insult them by just buying any trinket you can get your hands on. Of course it is not reasonable for you to be expected to shop for each person individually, but do not be thoughtless either. Choose a wedding favor that directly ties in with you and your theme. The good news is that if you do so, you might very well not have to spend as much on decorating your reception hall because your favors will be doing double duty.

Wedding Blunder Number Five: Planning a Wedding without Making Contingency Plans

Even in ever sunny Southern California rainstorms happen and the bridal party should have a back up and a way to make sure that everyone of your wedding professionals are notified so you don't end up without a cake. But rain is not the only variable involved in weddings; every bride should have a survival kit made up to make sure that a spilled snack or a broken nail does not become an emergency.

Wedding Blunder Number Six: Assuming that Your Big Day is Not Your Husband's Big Day Too

No, we all know that it is his big day too. If you ask any bride she will say that their wedding day is for both of them. But then she often plans it with no regard to learning what is important to him. Guys approach things differently than women do, so to assume that he does not care simply because he does not have a strong opinion about dress patterns or some other detail is to overlook the man that you say you love. Take the time to see how he approaches tasks and then use that knowledge to involve him in your wedding plans. To do otherwise could lay the foundation for patterns in your relationship much more devastating than the simple embarrassment of so many wedding blunders.

Finally, one of the biggest mistakes any bride could make is to let things get out of perspective. One woman I know says now that the only thing that went wrong with her wedding was her. She let it herself lose perspective. She was so focused on everything being just right that she could not relax and enjoy her wedding day. Now that is a wedding blunder you do not want to live with.
About the Author
Jeanette Shinn is a wedding professional with over a dozen years experience making dreams come alive. Find all kinds of tips and accessories from a renaissance inspired collection of wedding accesories to sun catcher favors at http://www.ExcitingWeddingFavors.com.
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