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How to Accomplish the Difficult Goals
My entire life I kept setting goals, there was a point when I realized that few goals appeared permanently on the list. The reason: those goals were never achieved. However, I did find the actual reason that I was too occupied in attending workshops related to goal setting.
Whatever I learned in these workshops I wrote the list, I applied, recited it, and visualized it. I decreased the number, more challenging, less challenging. Yet, there were few that kept appearing on the list. In fact there came a stage where I was easily able to segregate these goals. This was not difficult if you have same goals day in and day out.
It seemed as if each and every person was good enough to get their aims but I wasn't? These repetitive goals continued to appear on my list because of their relative importance to me. For a considerable time I was not able to figure it out. Therefore, I framed the question differently, What a different way do I need to get my aims? And then it struck me.
When I worked as a sales representative, on every New Year my superintendent used to get all my colleagues together and gave 5 cards to each of us and asked us to fill it up with five different aims. Only one condition was set that at least two had to be related to our work profile, rest can be anything. After writing, superintendent used to take that envelope back with our name in front of the envelope.
My knowledge of the incident was limited till here; however, one of my colleagues later told me what actually happens at the meeting of goal setting. I never attended these meetings.
For five straight years, I wasn't part of this meeting. Either I had some urgent work, or I had to take leave. Strange isn't!! For a man devoted to setting up goals.
Manger gave each person his envelope back at year end to write their aims. My colleagues in return would read their aims and say that they were achieved or not. The individual was given one week to prove that the goals were achieved, if no sufficient proofs were provided a financial penalty was given such as sponsoring a team dinner, or donating to charity. Obviously I never participated well in follow up meetings as well.
Apart from getting to the goal, I never thought about being accountable and setting up an incentive. We human always try to avoid the feeling of being uncomfortable, for instance I was afraid to admit failure in achieving my goals to others but was never afraid to accept while alone as I had one more reason for my failure and then try once more next year, only to fall short again.
I always set goals for myself but never told about these to others. Benefit, if I do not tell anyone I do not require admitting my failure to them and saved myself from this feeling of looser to others. This behavior when once sets in, we keep hiding our failures to ourselves. This also leads us where we never wanted to end. This is the exact way how we get these same failed goals every year on our list for eternity.
Therefore, when you decide on a goal, particularly if it is an important one and you are frightened of losing, ensure that you tell a good number of people about it. Your friends can be a good starting point. Explain them about the goal and that how they and you will know when you have achieved it; also inform them about your deadline.
Don't be surprised if people keep asking you about your goals. By telling others, you are not only challenging yourself but also putting up your standing at stake. Also, if you fail you will end up facing the real question WHY?
You can attach another dimension to goal setting exercise of yours by telling your friends that what you would do if you fail. It may necessarily not be monetary; you can work in their lawn, paint their walls, etc. But ensure that you put something that normally you would not prefer to do.
You can always achieve the goal that you had set and escape the penalty and be happier than ever before. However, setting up this penalty is optional just like you achieving your goals.
By having your friends with you as your support will help you all along and make you want more and encourage you to go through this till the time you feel that you have achieved the goal. Also, you can celebrate your success with them.
Keep in mind that there is nothing as a failure; just treat them as a learning curve. It is our liability to identify what is wrong but also find what we require to do in a different way to achieve it.
So if there is any goal that's in their in your list for some time and you are very much serious to get past it, the time is NOW. Share it and price it. How significant is that goal to you?
About the Author Raj Arvin is a renowned Internet marketing coach and industry leader who is creating abundance in all dimensions of his life including finances and helping others to achieve the same. My Blog, Go For Gold, Money Time, Accept Affluence
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