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How To Handle The 5 Emotional Stages Of A Relationship Break up
There is no shortcuts to the emotional stages of a relationship break up. It's almost compulsory to go through them not because you need to experience the pain but because it's all part of the healing process.
Knowing beforehand hand what these stages are is not a bad thing and if you have been through it before then you will have a good idea that they work like synergy in a sense with one leading into the other.
But it still doesn't help avoiding that initial feeling of hurt and we can certainly feel your pain right now. Many people wonder how long it will take for them to heal and the short answer is no one really knows because everyone is different and every break up intensity is different.
But we do know that by working through each stage you will be a better person at the end of it in the sense you will have learned from any mistakes you made in the previous union. In this article, we will guide you through the five stages of a relationship break up so you will have a clearer understanding of what to expect and how to handle it.
First Stage - And pain is the first emotion you'll experience. It will come at you hard and fast. First, there's a feeling of non-belief and when reality sets in, the pain can almost feel physical and affect the way you eat and sleep. Wanting to be alone is natural but many times, the more you can release the pain the better you'll feel.
Second Stage - The feeling of denial is a crucial step to work through. Too many times people let this linger too long. Thoughts that your ex will soon come to their senses and welcome you back with open arms is common and acting as if there's nothing wrong is only delaying the healing process.
Third Stage - The feeling of anger usually follows denial and if you have any chance of getting back with your ex then this needs to be tempered. Irrational thinking can take over and this can be combine with irrational actions. Be careful not to let anger rule your thinking. And be careful not to become bitter because this can definitely spill into future relationships.
Fourth Stage - Just like in death, grieving is a natural process but unnatural thoughts such as wanting to shut yourself off from the world, feeling insecure or unworthy or even wanting to end it all can overtake a person's thinking during this stage. This is when it's vital you have a shoulder or two to lean on.
Fifth Stage - The emotion of acceptance will come when you finally declare to yourself that it really is over. Depending on how you handled the previous emotions you should be stronger in your resilience and actually learnt from some of the mistakes you made in the previous relationship. For many, it's now time to think about the future rather than the past and you should be excited about what lies ahead.
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