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It's Not The Kids That Are The Problem - It's The Adults!!
Am I kidding - kids that are out of control, violent, aggressive, confrontational, verbally abusive aren't a problem? That's right. I deal with them every working day. And they aren't the problem!
So, I must just let them do their own thing and have no control over the class? Never - that just doesn't happen!!
They're so under control they daren't speak? No, they're a happy, relaxed and contented bunch of kids.
I've been doing this job of managing extreme and out of control kids long enough to conclude that the kids aren't the stumbling block - the adults (whether at school or home) are the ones with the problems.
People in education, parents and carers constantly tell me that children's behaviour is getting worse and there's nothing they can do to manage and control children. They feel helpless against the onslaught of abuse and agression they meet so frequently. There is despair at their lack of ability to control the worsening situation in and out of school.
What's wrong with these people? They're educated and intelligent but seem to have completely lost the plot when it comes to dealing with junior aged dictators and tyrants. I face so much negativity - 'we can't do this', 'we can't do that', 'I've got all the other children to consider', 'it's their homelife' etc, etc, etc. An almost unending list of excuses and reasons why children are behaving badly and very little is being done about it.
Unfortunately, much of the advice given to schools about managing children's behaviour is wrong - dangerously wrong! Most professionals offering advice on behaviour have the luxury of not having to follow their own advice in the classroom. But, the teachers and support staff are stuck with advice that just doesn't work. And the kids realise quickly that you haven't a clue what to do. They often revel in the fact that they can wind a situation up further, adding to your stress and hopelessness. I know what you're dealing with - my first experience dealing with extreme behaviour problems was a nightmare.
But hey - it doesn't have to be a problem. You can take control and become a confident and effective classroom practitioner - anyone can. The great thing is that it's not hard to do. Read up on the strategies you need, practise them consistently and use them all the time. You'll see changes almost straight away and your confidence will grow.
Adults have to accept the responsibility to keep children safe and a to put effective behaviour management strategies into place that ensure children learn to adhere to society's expectations - controlled until they have matured emotionally and able to take responsibility for their own behaviour.
About the Author Liz Marsden manages children's challenging behaviour in the classroom on a daily basis. She trains teachers, students and classroom assistants in effective behaviour management techniques. Her highly recommended book Behaviour Bible passes on the essential skills that Liz has developed so successfully. Her online diary follows her day to day work and experiences in classrooms and schools.
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