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Engaging The Groom
Why is he here?
This is a question asked by many Grooms as they begin the test of activities leading up to the wedding.
According to fiances' , weddings are thrilling. According to Men , weddings may be boring, stressful, or dreadful; but are seldom described as thrilling. Do brides and Bridegrooms see something different in this event?
Bridegrooms may be less enthusiastic because of all the high stress activities they face leading up to the wedding. Men have to get the date. Bridegrooms have to win the hearts of their ladies . Men have to pay all the bills along the way. Bridegrooms have to win over their brides ' families and friends. Men propose. Bridegrooms ask for the Father's permission. Men often endure the whole pre-wedding ordeal as tag along to their brides . The whole process is expensive, emotionally charged, and socially engaging.
When you think about it, why do Men experience so much stress over the long list of social encounters? If you have missed it, just watch Men at pre-wedding showers, parties, rehearsals, etc.
At least a month before the wedding, I meet with ladies and Men . My purpose is to help the couples plan their wedding ceremonies and answer any questions they may have over getting married. In most cases, ladies are much more eager to discuss the wedding than Men .
During the meeting, I make a special effort to listen to Grooms . Given opportunity and prodded a little bit, Bridegrooms usually have some great ideas for their weddings. It may take them more time to express their thoughts, unlike the effervescent ladies who enter the room bubbling over with their ideas.
I believe weddings are for both brides and Bridegrooms . Yes, Bridegrooms must be sensitive and understanding of their ladies ' hopes and dreams. Grooms need to listen and genuinely appreciate the feelings of their fiances' . On the other hand, it is important for Grooms to be a big part of the wedding planning and the wedding itself. Not only will Men feel better about the whole event.
On the other hand, I have found that Men have very strong feelings. They may not know how to express those feelings without discouraging their brides .
Men need help to empower them and make their weddings all they can be. Early planning can reduce stresses and relieve anxieties. A professional wedding coordinator can support and encourage Grooms to feel good about their participation. A sensitive caring minister can help Bridegrooms feel like they are an important part of their wedding. Hmmm. Grooms do belong at those pre-wedding events, at the wedding, the reception, and for a lifetime of marriage.
Wedding day dreams are fashioned very early by girls, but boys seldom give their weddings a second thought until their hearts are overwhelmed with love and passion for their dream girl. It may take a little time, understanding, and support; but Bridegrooms are an important part of any wedding.
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