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How To Make Conversation With Difficult People

Oct 19, 2007
A person who is able to have conversations with difficult people is considered to have highly developed communication skills. There are so many difficult people out there. What constitutes a difficult person anyway?

If a person has a different background, different values, and different personality than yours then consider that person to be a difficult person. If you want to be able to communicate with difficult people then you should keep some of these pointers in mind.

1. Build bridges, not walls. If you want to talk to a difficult person then you have to fish for the similarities that you have, no matter how small they are. If you keep on bringing up the differences that the two of you have then you are going to build barriers between you. You certainly do not want this to happen. You might end up fighting and debating with this person. This is the last thing that you want to happen. Focus on the similarities.

Do you have similar hair? Do you share the same subject in school? Do you have the same car? What is it that makes the two of you similar? Find it as soon as you can and talk about it.

2. Laughter is the way to go. If you want to make a difficult person loosen up then you might want to try cracking a joke or two. If you can make this person laugh then this person will be less difficult to talk to.

You have to try and find out what kind of humour this difficult person is into. Will this person laugh to knock-knock jokes? Do you think that this person will laugh when you tell an anecdote? Does this person love intellectual humour and intellectual jokes? Always have different genres of jokes under your sleeve so that you can work with different kinds of people.

3. Share a meal. If you want to talk to a difficult person then you should try having a meal together. A difficult person certainly eats. Everyone eats! Sharing a meal is one of the most common cultural practices around the world. No matter what kind of nationality or race you are from, sharing a meal is something almost anyone does.

The only things that you have to worry about are allergies and preferences. Find out the common things that you and the difficult person like to eat and share a meal. Share humanity and share life. Difficult people will simply share their lives with you too.

4. Always maintain your poise. Do not get affected by harsh remarks because sometimes difficult people are really like this. If you want to get through to a difficult person then you should be the one to be more patient and more kind. You are not going to go anywhere if you are just as difficult as the difficult person, right? If you want to get through to a difficult person then you should be leading the conversation. You should be the one that is more poised.

5. You have to be sincere. Do not lie or make up things when you are with a difficult person. There are a lot of difficult people out there that can tell if someone is lying or not. The last thing that you want from a difficult person is being branded as a liar. If people think that you are a liar then they will avoid you. The difficult person will become even more difficult. Always be sincere and do not lie.

Difficult people are everywhere to be found. If you want to talk to difficult people then you certainly have to be skilled with communication. If you want to make sure that you are ready to talk to a difficult person in the near future then you must keep these points in mind. They will certainly improve your communication skills.
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Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to Developing Communication Confidence. Apply now because it is available only at: conversation starters
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