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How To Get What You Want Using Only What You Have

Aug 17, 2007
Everybody is born onto this earth with nothing except their physical body, as we grow older we acquire things. Material things such as clothes, houses, cars, televisions etc and emotional things such as confidence, insecurities and character.

You can buy new material things whenever you want as long as you have the money or the credit but they'll only make you feel better for a short while. Confidence and character however you can't buy.

All the flash cars, nice houses and even plastic surgery won't increase your sense of self worth and strength of character. To do this you need to look within.

You may have heard of miraculous transformations in character after a person has had plastic surgery but it's not the surgery itself that causes the change, it's what that change means to the person who's had it.

If it means you're more beautiful than you've ever been then it'll show through in your personality.

If it means you've changed on the outside but don't feel any different on the inside then this too will show through in your personality.

Instead of looking at all of the things that you don't have and lolling about feeling sorry for yourself, why not use what you already have to get what you desire.

If the weather outside is cold and wet what do you do? You put on the right clothes for the weather and go out anyway. You may even decide to have some fun and go jumping in some puddles. You can't change the weather so you adapt yourself to the circumstance.

If you're attracted to someone and want to ask them out but you don't think they'll say yes because you feel unattractive what do you do? You put on the right clothes and go jumping in puddles. Move your focus to what you've got, to your best bits and feel better about yourself.

Accentuate all the positive aspects of yourself and play down the negative. Go to the hairdressers and get a new haircut, wear some new clothes play up all of the great parts of your personality.

At the end of the day if you can't change the circumstance, adapt the circumstance around you. If you been blessed with not so good looks, use something you can control to get that person of your dreams.

This rule applies to any part of your life, stop feeling sorry for yourself and beating yourself up, take a look inside, find out what's great about you and the situation you're in. Take some action to adapt the circumstance in your favor. There's always a way and if you can't find one, make one.
About the Author
Darren Hodgson is an expert in helping people overcome shyness and build self-esteem, he's also the author of Obliterate Your shyness. To find out he can help you visit his website at www.shynessandself-esteem.com
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