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The Rainbow in Every Dark Cloud

Nov 21, 2007
This is known as the law of polarity.

For every north, there is a south. For every outside, there is an inside, for every crisis, there is an opportunity and for every heads, there is a tails. For every concave, there is a convex.

For everything that comes to an end, something new begins.

The meaning we choose to attach to an experience is the meaning we create. When we interpret an experience as negative or bad, we will get into a miserable state, take lousy actions (even inaction is a form of lousy action) and produce negative results.

At the same time, when we interpret an experience as positive, we get into resourceful states, take positive action, and eventually create positive results.

This can be summarized in a formula that goes Event + Response = Outcome. This wonderful formula is given by Jack Canfield (Co-author of Chicken Soup for the Soul).

Many people believe that it is the events around us that shape our outcomes. They believe that people who are happier and more successful just happen to experience better events in their lives?

You and I both know that this is totally untrue. It is not the things that happen to us, but rather how we choose to respond to happenings and external circumstances that ultimately shape our outcomes.

As you well know, we cannot control every single thing that happens to us, but we can control how we choose to respond to it.

For example, if you go sailing, you cannot control where the wind is going to blow. You can complain and blame the wind all you want but it is not going to be of any use.

However, you can control how you maneuver the sails, and that will control the outcome of your boat's direction.

We have heard so many stories of people who were born with all kinds of handicaps and despite all the odds stacked against them, they managed to create a life most others can only dream about.

What we must understand is that all meaning is context dependant. In other words, there is no meaning in life except the meaning we choose to give it.

When we look at things (an experience, an incident, an event) from one perspective, it may seem totally bad. However, when we change the way we look at the same thing, i.e. from a different context, the meaning completely changes.

It could become totally powerful for you.

You can also see that any experience in life carries with it multiple meanings. Anything is life has the potential to be either good/positive or bad/negative.

It depends on your perspective, the frame in which you are seeing it from.

People who succeed and live fulfilling and enriching lives don't experience better events, they just re-present things and respond in a much more powerful way.
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Adam Khoo is an entrepreneur, best-selling author and a self-made millionaire by the age of 26. Discover his supercharged success secrets and claim your FREE bonus report 'Supercharge Your Success!' at Success With NLP.
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