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How To Approach Women

Dec 2, 2007
When someone asks me how to approach women, I always astound them with my answer. It is "quickly and without hesitation." They always look baffled. They ask me for any tips or pointers to add to it and I tell them that is all they really need.

When you approach a woman quickly, you won't have much time to think about what you are going to say or do. This is a good thing. Why? Because the more you think about what you are going to say or do when you approach a woman, the more you are going to doubt yourself and more than likely talk yourself out of it. You get yourself too psyched out to be able to function like a real human being.

When you see a girl, you have to be natural. I don't use the words 'act natural' because that is a dumb idea, (not to mention an oxymoron).

Once you have approached the woman, say the first thing that comes to mind. If you cannot think of anything or your mind goes blank from nervousness, simply say a cliffhanger.

A cliffhanger is a phrase that ends abruptly and requires the other party to speak to get the rest of your sentence. An example would be, "I noticed something really beautiful about you..." and wait for her to answer. When she pauses and finally says "what?" that gives you enough time to look for the thing you want to tell her you found beautiful on her. Something such as her eyes, dress, jewelry, or something of that sort. Try to stay away from sexual based comments, as that will let her know the only thing on your mind. Then you will be the last thing on hers.

Other cliffhangers can pertain to the things that are going on around you or with her. Try to use cliffhangers as open-ended questions, so that you don't just get one word answers. You can say things like, "That is a unique looking drink," or "I see you're about halfway done with that book you are reading, What is it about?" or even "That is a beautiful tan you have, did you just get back from a vacation?"

All of these, with any luck, will eventually lead to a conversation. It is this conversation you want. Women love conversation. They do NOT love interrogation. Questions like "Where are you from?" or "What's your sign?" or even "Can I buy you a drink" are seen more as pick up lines and women will throw up their defensive walls as soon as you say them.

Conversation can be natural and smooth. Think of it as talking to your best friend. Begin a conversation and hang on to their every word. Not in a sick puppy dog way, but in a genuinely interested in her conversation and not thinking what she looks like naked approach.

When women see that you interested in them, the conversation will be more open and smooth. Try to get something that sparks her interest and the moment you do, hang on to that. Build this two minute relationship.

One other tip, after around two minutes, shake her hand and introduce yourself. This will not only bring down their defenses, (it is an unconscious thing that once you've introduced and shook someone's hand, they are no longer a stranger) but you've also made physical contact. And this will make some more comfortable with you.

As a whole, you don't have to practice your routine before you approach a woman. Once you practice something, it will come off as rehearsed. Women see right through that. Be yourself. Be funny, romantic or whatever other quality comes naturally to you. The rest will take care of itself.
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