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What? He Said You're Fat!?

Dec 30, 2007
Their marriage started off with her being a size 2. Two years later when their first child was born she was a size 14. Another two years later she blew up to a size 18. Rather than visiting the gym and losing the weight she gained during her pregnancy she fell into what most know as post partum depression. Instead of leaving his overweight and depressed wife, her husband continued to love her. Her body size from a size 2 to a size 18 was quite the shock to him and did not help in rocking their love life in the bedroom. Most of all, however, she felt least attractive to herself. By this time, however, she had given up caring.

Perhaps you can relate?

What is a woman to do when she feels trapped in a body that is no fun, in addition to dealing with a depression that you can't seem to explain since giving birth to a child should be one of the most exiting undertakings of anyone's life? Even the shoes on your rack consist mainly of slip-ons, because you've grown tired of getting out of breath when tying your shoes.

You've tried working out but the time constraint now with the new child keeps you busy. You've tried every diet there is, and the more they fail (and we know 95% of them fail) the more depressed you get. And the excuses for not getting back into shape are endless

Should you leave this dead marriage? What if you did?

And yet, life goes on - with or without you!

Rather than leaving your marriage in the hopes for peace and being left alone, here are 5 steps you can take that can assist you in regaining great health and igniting that new flame into your relationship:

1. Stop the excuses as to why you are not losing the weight. Instead, find positive reasons why you want to regain your sexy figure. You've been there before, you'll get there again. There is no need to worry about losing all the weight by next week, just start somewhere and be consistent.

2. Do it for you. Instead of wanting to lose weight for "him," realize that losing weight and feeling good about yourself is all about you. If you're in a relationship then yes, you're going through this together, but losing the weight for him may be too superficial of a reason and the results may only be temporary. Desire to lose the weight and get back in shape for you and only you. Remember that it is you who is feeling the lack of health, you feel unattractive and you want to start feeling better about yourself. Your lover feeling attracted to you is a bonus, cream on the crop so to speak, but the main reason for you to get back in shape needs to be for you.

3. Don't be rebellious and do what I did and put your hands on your hips with a bad attitude: "He ought to love me for me not for what I look like." I'm sure he loves you no matter what, but you also must learn that most men are stimulated by visuals (and are equally as turned off by them). That is part of the biological make-up and no matter how much you want to rebel against it, you're only hurting yourself and him as well. Accept Mother Nature for what she has created and know that she works perfectly at all times, either with you or against you, the choice is yours.
About the Author
Chaszey Sandhriel is a coach and seminar leader empowering women to be the best they already are. For instant reports and tips visit her website at http://www.itsmyweightloss.com/products. Or visit her extensive blog at http://itsmyweightloss.blogspot.com
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