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The Art Of Change

Feb 2, 2008
'Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.' --Albert Einstein

Change is difficult to define. There are some changes that seem to take *forever*. . .like weight loss, or selling a house in the current market. Other changes can happen in the blink of an eye and irreversibly. . . death, for example. A lot of people shun change, they do their best to hold on to the past, to hold on what's comfortable. I had a grandmother who never appeared to change (aside from shrinking and wrinkling up a little). Her hair and clothes and friends and house and church were all exactly the same year after year. Holding on has the illusion of keeping us more secure, but it can also prevent us from growing.

Change is happening around us all the time, each and every second, and there's absolutely nothing we can do to prevent it. Seasons change, the weather changes, life, death, rebirth. . .to try to hold these things back is futile and is very self defeating and counterproductive.

I am now in my late forties and I'm venturing out and making changes in both my personal and professional life. These changes are thrilling and terrifying. And I am greeting them with eagerness and excitement, choosing to trust that growth is coming.

Now that we're a little way into the new year, it's time to take inventory of what needs to change for you. I wrote a little bit about resolutions at the beginning of the year. This is a basis for change for some people, a nice trigger. However, larger changes come at you at unexpected times, not on a predictable timetable, many times without our consent. (Scary.) And managing our fear over these changes is really the key to happiness and fulfillment on all fronts.

If you are afraid of change, this is for you, a new start, a chance to stop blocking yourself from the opportunities available to you with a little risk.

The first thing to realize is that your resistance to change is emotional. And emotional resistance is really difficult to overcome. It can be done. Lately I've been thinking a lot about emotions and how each and every emotion we have is a choice. This has really struck a chord in me and given me a new found sense of freedom over what I choose to feel.

Sometimes resistance to change is a general weariness, what the French call ennui. If there is no strong desire, then this resistance will not be moved beyond. A friend told me the other day, 'I really wish I wanted to quit smoking'. Will this person make that change? Nope. Not a chance. The big factor here is motivation. There's a moving away from feeling for some people, moving away from fear of losing something valuable in order to change, like the alcoholic who hits bottom and realizes what they will lose as a result of their behavior. Others simply fear the unknown, all the possible outcomes of making changes. These are both valid but regrets are seldom about things we have tried, and often about the things we were too afraid to try.

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About the Author
Kenrick Cleveland teaches techniques to earn the business of wealthy clients using persuasion. He runs public and private seminars and offers home study courses and coaching programs in persuasion techniques.
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